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Why is it so hard?

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There's this guy, I've been going out with for a week, sounds like a short amount of time? It is. We've seen each other everyday for 13 days straight, all day most days until late. We are close. Well, we were. Until he told me he won't ever be able to love me. After being so close and so there for me and caring and always making the first move. You woul have thought he cared for me deeply. He wants to break up because he said 'I barely love anyone' I think he's freaked out by the whole idea of relationships. But until last night all seemed perfectly normal and I thought that we got along really well. I don't want to break up with him. There's quite a lot of reasons why; I'll miss him, it will be hard to hang out with him because all my friends are really close to him, the embrassment of telling everyone we are not together and the failure of not being able to have a boyfriend and to be with anyone. I've been up all night thinking about it. I know he can't feel some emotions sometimes and that he can sometimes shut people out. He never used to show me any emotions, until this past month. He's proved himself wrong. I don't know how he can be so sure he can't love me. Otherwise why did he go out with me. Why does he grab my hand wherever we walk. And make me feel special. He told me that he found it difficult, to fit the 'boyfriend' role. Yet he's the one who started the whole thing. I don't want to loose him, I feel as though I haven't cared for anyone like this before. I know I don't love him. I know that this whole 1 1/2 buildup can't just lead to nothing. What do I do?

Why is it so hard?

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Why do you want to love someone who doesn't seem to be able to love you? Rejection is part of any relationship. If you want to go deeper than that... Rejection is a part of living. You're going to be rejected a gazillion times throughout your life. Learn how to accept it and move on. If I had a nickel for every time I was rejected... I'd have a lot of nickels.

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Whoa girl . . . Too much, too soon. Step back and give this guy some air! It's only been 13 days. He might be feeling overwhelmed. (and stop caring so much about what OTHER people think or say about this relationship. That puts pressure on both him and you)

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When some tells you how they feel about, beleive them. He told you he won't EVER be able to love you Accept it. You guys just hung out for awhile and that's it.

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