Should ask him where it's going?
I've known this guy for most of my life. But we only got together a couple of years back and at that time we entered the relationship as a fling, because he would be living for further studies but as time went on I got more emotionally involved even though I knew it was wrong. I fell in love with him but was too afraid to say it to him coz I thought it would drive him away so I kept quit. The day before he left I broke and wrote him a somewhat cruel message, he wasn't too happy about that, we had a long talk, where he basically told me we were never meant to be serious. After he left I sent him a message telling him how much I had fallen in love with him, he didn't reply. We didn't communicate for a while but then we started communicating again and not long after that we started fooling out on Skype, and someone every time we do this I get back into the emotional thing, we are on and off with this, we get into relationships with other people and then back, but sometime back he told me that he doesn't think he will ever get serious, like he will never get married and all that, I took it as him telling me not to expect much, so I stayed away from him, for a long time and I really believed tha I had gotten over him. But recently he came back into my life and the emotions are back, and we are back to our old ways, but now we are talking about traveling to see each other, but now I'm thinking, should I ask him if anything serious is gonna happen between us before I spend a lot of money to go see him and then after that time him telling me that he doesn't want anything serious? Part of me thinks he contacts me because he's lonely. Please help
You should keep this guy on the Friends List. He's informed you that he does not see a "married future with you" accept this.
I would not spend any money on travelling to see him. If he wants to see you then he it's on him.
I agree, I agree. As I was reading "Single's" post, I was thinking, this guy finally wants to get back with her because he's in between girl friends. Then I read the last of her post and it said, "Part of me thinks he contacts me because he's lonely." Bingo!
Then "skinnygirl" says, "I would not spend any money on travelling to see him. If he wants to see you then it's on him."
I will add, I would not jump on the Jumbo for Jimbo. Jimbo comes to you, or halfway, divide the expenses, and we'll find out how lonely he is. Or, he comes visit you first, to test his sincerity, right, and then next time, meet in the middle, maybe, if you decide that, but never going to see him at his place at your expense.
If you do get married, I can see you writing back on this board in a year complaining about how bad he treats you, like a lot of other people on this site. Oh, yeah, I married somebody like that and I can tell you how it ends. Rough.