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Boyfriend is always to tired from working all day!

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S-e-x advice So sick of always feeling rejected when it comes to sex or unsatisfied when it does happen for the two PATHETIC minutes that it does! It's always he is too tired from working all day and blah blah blah but even the days he's off its the same exact thing . Other than sex things are ok with us other than I wish he would spend more time verses doing all kinds of yard work and than complain of being tired again. My self esteem has been lowered so much . I'll get all sexy for him in lingerie and I feel he doesn't even get turned on or acknowledge me any differently. I've never had this problem is past relationships and I can't accept it in this one even though I love him and everything else is amazing for the most part. I'm currently 7 months pregnant with our son and also have two other children and I still want sex everyday and I'm also tired but doesn't stop me from wanting sex or pleasing him.

Boyfriend is always to tired from working all day!

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Hang in there sweetie. I'm guessing it hasn't always been that way (the lack of). Some guys lose the desire. Why? I don't really know. Never lost it myself - but that's beside the point.

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Boyfriend is always to tired from working all day!

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No it hasn't always been this way just lately and for 4-5 months has been. I'm currently 7 months pregnant so not sure if that's adding to the cause or not

Boyfriend is always to tired from working all day!

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It could - you'd know better than anyone else. Heck, you might be wearing him out (if that's possible). Maybe you should consider purchasing something for yourself. Just an idea to consider.

Boyfriend is always to tired from working all day!

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He gets mad if I try to use a toy so everything seems out of the question. It's like he doesn't show he wants me but gets mad if I handle the situation myself . I can't win . We used to have set multiple times a day and now I'm lucky if I get it once a week for 2 min max and he has no emotion towards sex and makes me feel like he doesn't enjoy it. i tell him I have needs too and even though he always wants to cuddle and just lay back that I need sex . I'm always starting fights and wanting to throw in the towel because it hurts not feeling wanted . I'm not bad looking and I know right now I've gained weight being pregnant but I'll be back to my size in no time . Uhh

Boyfriend is always to tired from working all day!

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Have you asked him WHY, if he's as tired as he so often claims and can SEE (or even just work out the no-brainer that) this is detrimenting your sex-life and presumably wouldn't want it to die a death himself, he doesn't think to try to take advantage of the weekends to redress it and instead makes himself even more tired by flogging his guts out in the yard? Ask him, does he think that's a logical reaction? And does he not realise he's not contributing a certain major ingredient towards the jointly-baked Happy Marriage Pie?

Used to have it a lot more WHEN? What in your day-to-day living or his that you can deduce, changed all that? When did you first notice, i.e. when was the third time in a row that he either suddenly couldn't last beyond 2 minutes or started to claim he was too tired? They count as one thing, by the way, meaning, if following on from the very last time you had had great sex he then claimed tiredness, followed by next time climaxing prematurely (and clearly NOT 'finishing you off'), followed by either one of those, or any variation to that run-of-three, it makes no difference. Rejection is rejection and foreshortening is a form of rejection just as is avoidance.

What do you mean no emotion towards sex? Do you mean he used to put feeling into his touch and eye gaze and say affectionate or raunchy things but then stopped? Tell me how you can tell he's not enjoying it? Again - WHEN/what had happened in your or his life that could have triggered it?

What exactly HAPPENS when you walk into the bedroom dressed to the sexy nines?

Have you also asked him WHY he won't allow a sex toy to play his substitute if he's crying off? Have you asked him what he thinks gives him the RIGHT to get mad at you under that circumstance in the first place?

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