in a couple of months i will be 20. i have boyfriend and we always wish to spent at least one night together but i live with my parents and they are very strict. they treat me like iam under age and that is not the case. iam doing everything right work and college never been in trouble now that i think of. still spending more than three hours with my boyfriend its too much for them. they say that if i spent a whole day with him it means i will have to marry him. my boyfriend and i do wish to be marry but after we are done with our careers. we wanted to plan a night just for us we have needs and i believe we are old enough we are not 15. we are well aware of condoms and other type of birth control. we want to spent a whole night..and i was planning to tell my parents that i am going to sleep over at a friends house. but the difficult part is that in the morning my fiend cant take me home because she works at 6am and of course my boyfriend cant because my parents will know. in other words iam looking for excuses of why my boyfriend drop me off the next day. or another plan to escape my house for one night since my parents are very old school.
Start saving your money NOW AND MOVE OUT ASAP! seriously!! I was in your shoes once I ALWAYS had to lie while dating and I continued going to school and pleased my parents in every possible way I'm a 25 yr old woman still living at home with a one year old daughter still trying to finish school with extra bills and a part time job. MY BEST ADVICE IS MOVE OUT ASAP!! you'll be so much happier and there will be a lot less stress on your back. Good luck hun :)
Are you the only child or the first girl in the family?
Does your family know him? Do they like him?
This 3 hour limit is a little severe at age 20. Have you been in the "little girl" role for too long?
iam the first girl, they do know him, they do like him ,and iam the smallest i have two older brothers.
Have you ever heard of " Afternoon Delight"? Think about getting together during the daytime. Plan to take off work, or skip classes for one day. Your not likely to be missed make sure you get home at your regular time, mission accomplished. Is it possible for you to even get your own place? Or do you have to remain with your parents until you get married?
Is it possible to get your own transportation? You are in a very controlled environment, you got to find a way (other than getting married) to get some more freedom.
What would happen if you simply stayed with him for more than 3 hours? say 5 hours? what would be your consequence?