Sudden change of heart
My name is Ashley. I am still a newly wed in my eyes, a year and a half to be exact. When I married my husband everything felt right he had a son, which I loved and accepted so close to my heart. Once we married everything was perfect, up until 2 months ago.
My husband had been in and out of relationships with his sons mother for 13 crazy years before he had met me. So u can image how much they had been through. My step son now 9 years old is in our custody, and before me was always solemly placed with my husband. Recently birth mom has been very excepting of me always has attempted to be my friend, but I have not allowed her to become to close to me. She seems to have caught on that I am not her best friend, and since her realizing this, she has began flirting with my husband through text messages, which he has been hiding from me since I found the first few.
As for my step son, he has hit a spurt of mouthing off to me specifically, and trying to treat me as I the child and he the adult. This is where things get really rough. My husband has a way of ignoring the problems I have with telling his son that he needs to watch the way he talks to me. My husband does nothing when this is going on. When my husband leaves a room my step son finds ways to get me in trouble with my husband.
My husband's problem is he always hears sons side first and immediately threatens me to treat his son right or get out. He has thrown things at me for these agents and all without hearing what I have to say first. His anger gets worse every day which comes after step sons accusations worsening of me.
So here is my issue, I love both of them so dearly, Husbands anger is getting worse, name calling and throwing things, even threatening to have me removed by the cops.My issue is I'm so tired of being treated this way, but I gave up everything when we got married. They moved in with me but we moved my home onto husband's parents property, so if I leave I have no home and, with him having a child I will be lucky to get my clothes for christ sake. I kno he will play hard ball with a divorce, but I am starting to fear for my safety and my emotions. What can I do?!
First I would seek legal advice regarding your ownership in your home on this property, what legal rights do you have? Where was your husand living before moving in with you? The lack of respect from your husband in front of his son only reinforces to his son, that he to can disrespect you. What happened 2 months ago? What was the reason for moving your home onto his father's property.
Before I moved my home he lived on the property in a place that was running down with no options to get a better home, so when we engaged I moved my home on the property because I had a newer better home for us to be a family in. 2 months ago is when his ex started flirting with him, he then started to become distant and short fused with me, i tried to stop the incident from occurring but he said she was the mother of his child and I needed to get over it, and that they weren't flirting, (if her trying to send him pictures of her naked isn't flirting then I guess I was wrong?!) Legally I know I will lose the home as his parents would remove me anyway even if I got the home, the home cannot be moved again under the legal moving regulations of mobile homes. I am willing to leave the home to him but would prefer him having to give me half price of the home, so I can start a new life, he most likely would never agree, I'm just lossed, don't know where to start or what I should do!
OMG, this sounds just like my story. But my husband had more kids and they truly were a might mean and a nightmear to me. It was from calling me names, to telling him I couldn't come to family gatherings, but worst of all my husband allowed this. After I found out that MY SO CALLED HUSBAND, was not only giving OUR money to his EX (and I'm not talking about $20 or $100, I'm talking about $1,000.'s at a single time? At one time he took out $10,000. From our retirement fund)!by now you can figure out his kids our adults and so our mine ( one of his kids work, my do) yet they call my kids latches ( go figure) his kids text him thifgs like leave her, she is changing you dump her, his second tells him I'm nothing but a stinky V or a B and his kids need him more. Any ways it goes to the point that I wondered why I was here if he could not stand up for me, bu the icing on the cake came when I found out he was having an online affaire (our entire marriage) with some. So this is what I did, first I separated our savings account, I took half the money out and put it in another account and in another bank, then I got all our finances in order and I cancelled my credit card that had my and his name in it and started paying them off, third I got a dam good lawyer. I installed a nanny come to capture some of the mistreatment on video and the lawyer hired and investigator to follow my husband and picture and video of him and his ex and other eve since. Not only did I get my house I also go spousal support and with. Judges order you can move Anyang again. Good luck
Thanks everybody, the way I see it, I am decent enough to leave him the house but giving me my fair share, because I am not a heartless person and he has a child and I don't so I would let him keep it solemly for the child. If u kept the house he would lose custody of his child and the birth mom is not stable enough to raise him reason we have custody. But your advice has helped I think I am going to contact a lawyer and get things moving just really scared as to what he will get away with seems he has a child.