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Is there any getting past this?

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Relationship advice This is such a long complicated story . Last year I left my 9 year marriage ( lots of cheating on his part ) to try and find happiness else where and started dating someone I've known and had a connection with for over 15 years . We were together five months some things scared him off and he left . I tried to get back with my husband with a bunch of fake promises to do right but the whole time my heart was still with this other guy . Five months later he realizes he can't get over me and wants to fix us . Now while we were broken up he had a one night stand which resulted in a pregnancy . There were three other possible dads who had slept with the girl more than once so he didn't think the baby was his he prayed the baby wasn't his ! This baby was born two days ago and of course it's his . She has a husband about to get out of prison who wants to be the dad ( he's going to be on the birth certificate and all ) they tried for ten years to have a baby unsuccessfully and my guy wants no part in it . I can't have anymore kids and badly want one we wanted one together his child passed away but he has taken on my two as his own since their father stepped out . I don't know that I could be okay with being with someone that has a kid out there that they aren't raising ! And the twist to this whole story is this woman is family so there's no not seeing this child !

Is there any getting past this?

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Need some clarification- Are you now back with your husband? Is this baby his or your friend of 15 yrs? What exactly is your question?

Is there any getting past this?

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No the husband is completely out of the picture Have been back with the friend for over five months now we broke up for five months and the child is his. Sorry if I'm rambling I'm just so lost right now !

Is there any getting past this?

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Oh the question is should I leave basically ? Everyone is saying I can't be mad we weren't together when this happened but this whole situation is just too twisted for me to handle I think !

Is there any getting past this?

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Your BF should man up and except his responsibilities. He wasn't aware that this woman was a family member of yours? If he's able to except your children as his own, then he should step up and own his child. It will awkward running into his own child at family gatherings- real awkward.

This is his decision to make not yours. Do you feel disappointed in him now that you see who he really is? A person that could dis-own his child. Is he afraid that this child may pass away like his other child?

When she names her husband on the birth certificate, what protection does he have that child support at time won't be pursued?

Is there any getting past this?

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All parties ( me excluded ) decided they want it to be that way her husband will be his only father . He knew she's my half sister ! I'm not making any decisions for him what so ever he won't even talk to me about it just the fact that he doesn't want me to leave him . I just don't know for myself that I can be okay with this ! Like this just is too much for me .

Is there any getting past this?

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Thanks for the info.
As they say " put your big girls panties on" be up front with him you know what you can and can't deal with.

Good Luck

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