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Relationship advice Okay..i am a girl 23yrs old,a member or group of 8 friends ...but I started developing feelings for this guy in the group...I was afraid of losing friendship and making it awkward for everyone if he didnt like me..but I trusted my friends that whatever happens it would be okay... so I told him about my feelings on his bday after my junior internship got over(this is to avoid any awkwardness in the he group)..he was a senior intern...he asked someone else to convey to me that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore...and the next day when i walked into a restaurant where he was there with our friends group, he said, i dont like sitting here anymore and walked out at my face...I felt bad...I was his friend too...so I asked him over my phone...it went bad...he told me he did not want to talk to people like me and that I do all imaginative talks and should learn to talk properly first ...it was bad but got over anyway and ppl in the group knew...so they decided to leave it at that...but then recently there was a birthday in the group...apparently his plan was to get everyone together for it was his best friends b'day of the same group...all of the 7 in the group got together after a gap of six months except me...no one told me...I was shocked and really really hurt when I saw their pics together...when I asked my colleague whom I see everyday also a part of the friends group he said he did not know till he went there that I was not invited...and it was planned all of a sudden...a girl who is my best friend in that group said he called us suddenly that day... I know you are not in good terms so, wat could I do?if I plan something you would be the first one I call and still she hasn't seen me since a long time despite me inviting her out... I am really hurt coz just few days ago I felt like I was missing them all...and this happened... They were my only friends...I feel like I was of no value in this group when I prioritised them fully when we were together...perhaps this a lesson? But the pain doesn't go away....

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A few thoughts:

1. Spontaneous events do happen all the time, so friends getting together and not remembering to invite you isn't a big deal, as long as it's a once in a while kind of thing. (Although rarely when no one's seen each other in 6 months...)

2. With that said, friends don't tell other friends that they "don't want to talk to people like you". They don't tell friends to "learn to talk properly first".

This guy isn't a friend. He's never been your friend. I'm not surprised that it hurts. *hugs* It's hard to give your heart to someone and have it trampled on.

I guess the question is whether you think the other friends in the group are your friend, and whether it makes more sense to try to remain their friend or to make new friends who might be more worthy of your time/affections.

Friends or not?

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thanks for replying... I was thinking along the same line...but its tough to decide whether it makes sense to stay or move on...because of the wonderful memories when we were all together...it was good when it was good...i know its never going to be the same again...thanks anyways to have things put in perspective for me..

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