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Strange neighbour...

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I'm an 18 year old female, before I met my boyfriend I used Tinder to talk to new people. Around Christmas time I started texting a guy who's 27. Anyway, it started as flirting and I started to like him a bit, he knew that and I think he liked me too but the age gap was too much. The texting turned quite explicit and it was constant. We talked for a few months but then drifted, we never met up.

About a month ago I saw him down my road, I text and asked why he was there and he joked and said "I've been stalking you for a couple of weeks now" and then told me that he'd moved into a house with his girlfriend (who he wasn't with when we were talking). I asked him if he knew I lived down this road and he said "you may have mentioned it". He's joked about me being the girl next door, walking past in short shorts... he even said to me "don't go walking in the woods on your own". I go along with it because I don't want to upset him, but I'm actually a bit concerned and scared to leave the house as his back window seems to be perfectly angled towards the front of my house. You can probably see the rest of the street through the front window.

Do you think he moved here on purpose? I definitely told him where I lived (stupidly) when we were talking. Or, if it was just a coincidence, should I be worried that he might be lurking about, like he 'joked' about? PS I live with my parents and they know nothing.

Strange neighbour...

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I would just ignore his texts and I wouldn't contact him. He is 27, has a girlfriend and has moved in with her. You are 18 and should have plenty of options to meet someone your own age and who is single. It was just a bit of flirty fun with an older guy, that's all it ever should be. Contacting him or replying will only continue with these messages.

Strange neighbour...

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Definitely don't text him anymore. If you can, block his number so he can't text you either. He was infatuated with you to say the least - 27 year old hoping to hook up with an 18 year old. You wanted to cut it off, but he was still pumped up over flirting with a much younger woman. Well, the odds are in your favor that he'll give up on you. It will probably take some time, but he'll more than likely fade away. Avoid him and/or ignore him if you see him and he sees you. If contact can't be helped, then don't start a conversation, just acknowledge him (say "hi, gotta meet a friend in 5 minutes" - sound urgent and get the heck out of dodge).

Some guys are a little off - They think that just because a woman talks to them; they are interested in having sex with them. That's a mental disorder if you ask me.

At any rate, stick to guys closer to your own age. You'll be happier in the long run.

Strange neighbour...

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"I go along with it because I don't want to upset him,"

Duh ???? Hey - you DO have permission to "upset" him - in fact, please do so. You MUST!! You are saying YES when you mean NO - that's the worse message a woman can give a man.

If he makes these comments and you "go along" with it, then he is ENCOURAGED! And you are seen as an EASY MARK for snide, suggestive remarks in the future. You are giving him permission to build this relationship! He's grooming you . . .

Cut off ANY conversation or interaction with this creep. If he says anything to you suggestive, then tell him to be on his way, you have a BF. If he continues, then tell him you will contact the authorities for sexual harassment.



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