PRESTINE49 - Aug 13 2015 at 08:06
I am a girl who is in relationship from past 7 years. It was great for initial 3 years but then one night my girl friends planned on playing a prank on my bf and one of them texted to him, he replied and he started chatting unknowingly to my friend, slowly he started fighting with me on really petty things, i requested my friend to continue texting him because i guess i wanted to find out what can happen if there is actually another girl in his life. They texted and spoke on phone for around 2 weeks, he planned on meeting her, told her that he is single and One day i hada meltdown and i confronted him, we brokeup, but later he came apologized and we gave another chance to us. But i couldn't forget it and wondered what have happened if i won't be knowing about it? I couldn't relate to him the way i use to... slowly relationship turned a mess, he became very verbally abusive, i again told him to breakup but he again call me and apologize and cry...i don't know what to do next and many times when i don't talk to him because of his abusive nature he follows me, come and wait in front of my office, and if i talk to him within a week time he starts fighting and use slang and accuse me of cheating on him which i have never done. I don't know what to do. pls help. I am scared of him.
I hear you played a prank, that went wrong. You confronted your bf, there was a disagreement, brokeup, got back together. You say "I couldn't relate to him the way I used to" have your feelings changed for him? You say he became verbally abusive, and you broke up with him, so this is your boundary which he cannot violate is that right? He is stalking you, following you, waiting for you at work and more, is this acceptable? Have you talked to someone locally about abusers? Have you talked to a therapist or womens' advocate? You say you are frightened, have you told family, friends or sought legal help?
Take a deep breath. Take another step, you are seeking help now, breathe then decide what you want next.
Quit taking his calls... Change your number, get another phone, block him, ignore him, don't acknowledge him, avoid him... It's over for him - unless you want to be miserable. Do you get the idea?
Him crying is bologna. He needs to man-up and quit acting like a pre-teen. Gheesh!