Too good to be true
I am ingaged and we live together. I have a few issues. Today I will focus on one of them. He got online and private messaged almost 20 women asking them to have a threesome with us. That same night he disapeared. And when morning came he refused to answer my calls and txts. He literally caused me to lose my job due to tye fact that some of tye girls were employees of mine. What would you have done?
My wife was a sex maniac due to being sexually abused at age 5. It caused her to lose her personality, she was a borderline personality syndrome person, as result of the sex abuse. (Lookup sex addiction, maybe borderline no the net and see if he fits either of these.)
After we got married, for the first 16 years of our marriage, I figure she had sex over 2,000 times outside the marriage.
When I realized the problem, we were buying a house and had a child. I could leave her, but I didn't want to leave the child. It is easier to get into a marriage than it is to get out of one. When I confronted her about the affairs, she said, "If this upsets you, why don't you just LEAVE!!!!!!!"
That might be your boyfriend's attitude about this, especially if you get married. So, don't get married, and especially don't have a child.
If you get married, keep your suitcase packed. You're getting all the data that you need about this guy. If you don't have the strength to leave him, you're going to pay a heavy price for a first class jerk. Someone once told me, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." He's fooled you once, and now it's your time to make a move.
This man clearly does not respect you or understand the boundaries in a relationship. Messaging randoms is bad enough but doing it to people you work with? That's just a kick in the teeth. This is not someone you should even contemplate marrying. It is clear that you have different expectations of being in a committed relationship and his behaviors do not align with that.
This man is egocentric and will not have your best interest at heart. You need to find the strength to leave him and know that someone better will come into your life. It seems as if your entire relationship is based off his needs and desires. You are part of this relationship too!! He should of known better than to disrespect you like this! He is definitely NOT marriage material.
I would have kicked him to the curb immediately. You are so lucky to find out who he is and what he is, AN AS* HOLE. He just assume you would go for this? The fact that he left and didn't come back nor could be reached that alone he would have found all of his belongings outside. Door locks changed, end of story.
He's shown you who he really is, WHAT MORE DO YOU NEED TO leave!!!