Falling out of love
I am here to talk about my husband and this issue that we are going through. Honestly this is a little weird for me but I don't wanna talk to people on my life because I don't want to be judged or for them to know the issues of my life behind walls. I have a husband we have been married 3 years and together for 5. Last week I received a text message from a coworkers son and he didn't give me a reason why he was texting me but I assumed it was because I didn't go to the baby shower he and his fiancé had that Saturday. Well I texted back said I got your present and that I will give it to his mom at work. And said he's gonna have a beautiful baby girl. I deleted these messages because my hubby is so crazy about minor things. Well later in the evening the coworkers son texted me again. .. guess who saw the messages? My husband. The guy said how are you and your man? Then said I'll have to beat guys up cause his daughter he's having is going to be beautiful. Okay so my hubby has blown this way out of proportion and hasn't said I love you to me in 3 days and hasn't kissed me in 2 days. He slept on the couch last night and hasn't spoken to me today. He's at work and hasn't called or texted. He is very upset. Honestly it hurts but I don't think I love my husband anymore. I don't think I've loved him for awhile. Did I mention we are 28 weeks pregnant? I am not sure I care to fix this over dramatic situation that my husband has blown up and beyond. I am positive I "love" him out of habit. He calls me fat and a bitch all the time. Since I've been pregnant he has put his hands on my twice. This is not the first time. He acts like when things go wrong between us it's my fault. He is losing me and I can't hold on. I am having his daughter in a few months and i don't think I see him in the bigger picture anymore... it just hurts to let go of something you wanted so badly but throughout the last 5 years I've just ran out of patience with how he treats me, I can't help but dream about a man who will love me the right way...
"I can't help but dream about a man who will love me the right way..."
You husband knows this and he flips out when some man speaks gently to you, because he has lost that skill (or never had it, only you didn't see that).
A child is on the way. You need to figure out what's happening in your marriage. Can you seek counseling so that you will have a better sense of what it is that you need in the future?
PS don't spend ONE minute who slaps a pregnant woman around. This will only get worse. Your child deserves better than being brought up by a bully.
No man should ever hit a women, let alone a pregnant one. You need to stop the physical abuse IMMEDIATELY.
Have you explain to him exactly what happen? What exactly is he upset about,that this guy texted you?
If you want to have a man that treats you the right way, you'll have to get rid of the one that doesn't.
Does you husband know it's your co-workers son? or does he think it just some guy? If he know the truth then what's the problem.
If he's be calling you fat/an a bitch all the time, why did you marry him? his physical abuse will continue until you take charge of your life and stop accepting/tolerating and putting up with his abusive treatment. The only way to stop this type of treatment is to separate yourself from the abuse.
You must call/report him to the authorities (police) any acceptance of this abuse breeds continued abuse.