Ive been with my bf 6 years. We have an 18 month old child. He found a job out of state and has been gone for 5 months straight. One month before he came home to visit he said he needed time and he has no feelings for me. It was hard for me i begged i cried i did everything and he just didnt change his mind. Month later tired of doing as much as i can to get him back i said to him ok im tired of fighting for your love do what you want and be happy... then he changes his mind and says ok lets try it again. 2 weeks later i pick him up 12 hours from home he says hi to my brother and children and ignores me like if im not even there. His here now in our home but its just not the same. He gets fustrated when i try to talk to him. I offer him food and he says no. He brearly spends time with our son. His always wanting to be alone. He wants nothing to do with me he says he needs time. My parience is gone im aftaid to let go but this isnt taking us nowhere hes here but its like his not.
i can fully understand you. Ive been there during my pregnancy he wants to end us. fought for us till i gave birth, when i was on my limit i told him im giving up the fight he can do whatever or to be with whoever that makes him happy then he was sorry and wants to give it another try. now after a year where in this same situation again. im afraid of losing him but i cant stand anymore the way how he take me for granted. i wont allow him to hurt me anymore (emotionally) i have my kids where i can turn all my attentions to. im gonna ask him for the last time if he really want us to end it here and take it though with a heavy heart i will be strong. i have kids that needs my love. i have kids that will appreciate me and the love i share. i chose to save myself and my kids from any more dissappoinments from him. My advice for you is to do the same. If our partner cant appreciate us anymore somewhere out there someone will. Take care sis.
His disrespect towards you in front of your brother and children is him showing you, you're not worth acknowledging?
His frustration is his way to continue distancing himself from you. YOU must talk to him. Tell him that he can take all the time he wants. Tell him that his comment, "he has no feelings towards you" were received loud and clear. Since there has been no change in how he treats you, you see no point in continuing this marriage.
He's not changing. You say "you're afraid of letting go" letting go of what? his disrespect, his lack of feelings for you? Why would you want to continue to be effected by his mean, crude selfish behavior? You owe yourself and your children a better life.
As the saying goes "know when to fold them, know when to walk away".
Thanks for your comments. I really needed to let my feelings out to someone. But theres no one i can trust or that will give me good advice...never thought id get a response so soon and i thank you sadako and skinnygirl for your advice and time. My babydaddy was supposed to leave sunday but i asked him to leave before. Either way hes not helping out at all hes just making things worst. If he wants to be alone i will move out of his way. I have started new hobbies with my children i signed up to a gym to better myself and keep myself busy so i wont have time to think or cry for him...