I've been in a relationship with my bf for a year. The relationship started off in the wrong direction because he was going through a divorce. Basically his ex has made my life a living hell.she would constantly call, text, and email me about him. She would leave five minute voice mail talking about what he has done and how he still wants her back. She even began to send me messengers on facebook. I constantly tell her to stop and she continues to stalk me. She's always threaten him and he acts like a little bitch always running with his tail between his legs and let her do whatever she wants.
But now that the divorce is finalized he's actually becoming a man and standing up to her. She can't handle him not doing what she want him too. So she try to call and tell me and him things about each other to try to break us up. She's been trying to break us up for a year now using the kids, his family, and the friends they use to share.I don't even have a relationship with his family. They don't like or respect me and he never would defend me from his family. I had to actually go off on his brother because he said some hurt things and I was all alone because he did not defend me but I always defend him with my family. So I told him that if anyone do or say anything about him I would never defend him again in my life. So now he has stepped up and told his family I'm here to stay if they don't like it he doesn't care and to never speak bad about me again. Even though his family has never made an attempt to get to know me they don't speak bad about me to him. But I'm pretty sure they still talk about me to each other. His family is fake and impersonators anyway that y I don't try to talk to them because it's a waste of my time and I actually don't like them anyway. Deuces.
Sometimes I ask myself is this relationship even worth the stress and rather I should end this problem. But I do love him that's y I have stuck it out for so long. We've actually have broken up once or twice and got back together. I think he's use to his ex not having a life and always in the house with the kids so he expects me to do these things. My life before him was so exciting. I had friends and we would hang out contantly. But now I'm always in the house with him sleeping and his kids up like im a babysitter. Seem like I got rid of all my friends for him just because they were guys. I like to hang out with guys because I was raise around all male relatives. But he doesn't like me having male friends. In the beginning he said he was fine with my guy friends but now he's not so I had to stop talking and hanging out with them for him. Now I have no friends and no life.He has a problem with one of my guy friends because he ended up liking me more than a friend and he was talking crap about my bf to other guys.when I found out I confronted my friend and he apologize for saying those things. I was able to get pass it but my bf act like a child. "Oh I don't like him and I don't want u to be friends because he was talking crap about me". Okay yes he was talking about you but I confronted him and he apologize. These r my friends and yes friends might not like who u r with and talk crap. But at the end of the days that my friend and he know that I will never have or like him in that way because I have a bf. He accepted that fact and we're still cool. He doesn't try to break or talk negative about my relationship. We don't even talk about relationships we just like to have fun with each other. My friend is a great and loving person and I can't hang or talk to him because of my bf insecurities. When we broke up once my friend was there for me and he because it was during the holidays he bought me a present. After my bf and I got back together he was angry with the present and even broke it I believe on purpose. He's so obsess with my friend it's ridiculous. I'm the type of person that can forgive and forget what other have done to me but he's the type of person that can never forgive and always hold grudges. Seem like he's trying to take all my friends away so I can have only him.I feel like he trying to control every aspect in my life. I feel trap and idk what to do. I feel like I'm suffocating in this relationship. I want my old life hanging out with my friends. Not being stuck in the house with him and the kids.
One day I was so overwhelm that I just left the house not knowing where I was going but I was just happy to get away. When we broke up I got back in touch with my friend. Then my bf and I got back together and I agree to things that I didn't believe or wanted because I love him. But now I regret it. We should have stayed broken up because he never going to change and I'm going crazy in this house.
Oh and his ex is freaking crazy and needs a mental evaluation because she lives in another world of her own. She still trying to break us up. Hell if u want him that bad then come take him back hell. I know she still love him but she try to act like she don't want him but she do. She so miserable it's ridiculous. She didn't know or want to be with him when they were married. Now that's he's tired of her and moves on now she acts like the victim of why the relationship fail. She acts like I was the cause of the divorce but u guys was going through your problems way before I came into the picture. Nice try. But people were actually believing her but now they see that's she actually is crazy.
I told him that I'm bored and miss having a life. He now scared that I'm going to brake up with him. Now he's saying well let's get out the house and do things. Idk. He's just so control and pretends like he's not. He jealous and it's getting on my nerves.
You say "you feel trap, your suffocating in this relationship. You want your old life back to hang out with your friends, and not being stuck in the house with him and his kids" THEN DO WHAT YOU REALLY WANT! TAKE back control over your life. In one year you now see WHAT YOU DON"T WANT.
Why would you agree to things you didn't believe or want because you love him? What did you agree too?
Your BF will be connected to his kids and EX for the rest of his life. I would move on. Since you're really not committed to this relationship.BE honest with him and yourself.
Break if off for good.
Yes you're right I need to brake up with him. It's not good for my health. I have nothing holding me to this man. He has two little boys ages 6 & 4. I have no kids. I don't want any kids. I have my bachelor working on my master. You're right I need to leave to better myself. It's just that I move away from my family in North carolina with him to New york. But I'm just going to leave him alone and catch a plane back to north Carolina to be with my family who actually cares about me. Thanks.