I'm a teenager, and I am hiding this from my parents. I'm super scared because I'm afraid I am going to lose there insurance and if I do I don't know what I am going to do!!! I have no job and no money the dad said he would help but I'm so scared!
Below are some sayings, etc., they may help. I can be overcome with fear,also.
However, the column on being positive prior to trying to solve a problem has helped me a lot. It's the last item below.
There have been some rumors started about me in my neighborhood. But because of the column on being positive, I don't feel fear, I feel positive that I can solve it, for all it is, is a problem. And the column below on being positive when trying to solve a problem, puts me on a positive course of, I can solve the problem, not on a fearful course, as I was before.
This week, one of the people in my neighborhood, busted the far corner of my front windshied on my car two nights ago as the car sat in the driveway.
Hey, panic right? Pretty close there for awhile, but I steadied myself and thought of some possible solutions.
Get a private detective to knock on his door and ask him some questions. I'll have someone on my side. Without thinking positive, I might not have thought of that.
I don't want to be my own worst enemy. In other words, I don't want to go around thinking, like I used to, "I can't solve this, this is very bad, I can't help myself.... Yeah, I can. I can think positive that I can solve this problem, and that in itself helps me to calm down, the first thing I'll need in trying to solve a problem, a calm self who is on my side.
Then I try to write down some possible solutions, then pick some of the best solutions, think positive that I can solve the problem, then try one of the solutions.
As I now tell myself, "One problem at a time, and be positive about that problem."
How long have I been an "expert" at at least trying to solve my problems. Only since the column came out in the newspaper about 15 year ago. Before I was a mess. My unconscious was wreaking havoic, telling me I couldn't solve the problem, while my conscious wanted to solve the problem.
Only until I got my uncon. under control, by first reading the column on being positive before even thinking about trying to solve the problem, my uncon. was lose and negative, and since I couldn't see it, I didn't know that.
If I drive up to an intersction and I want to solve a problem of getting to my destination by turning to the right (my conscious), but uncon. has been trained to be negative, and it can foul me up by saying, "Don't turn right, turn left," I don't which way to turn. So until I can get my uncon. positive, like my con., I'm not going to make the right decision. So I learned by reading the below column, that I had to first get my mind positive, before even trying to solve the problem.
So, that's why I read the below column first, prior to trying to solve the problem, so my uncon. would get straight, get positive. Try reading the below column first, and only then tring to come up with positive solutions. When I was not near to column so I could read it, I would tell myself before trying t solve a problem, "Be positive, be positive...." to try and make sure I had the right attitude, prior to trying to solve the problem.
With me, the problem wasn't the problem, it was my neg. uncon.
Here below is a song I use to sing when I walked past the bad people's house. They've not moved, so they're not a problem.
(can get the tune for this by typing in “melodies” on net search engine)
"You'll Never Walk Alone"
When you walk through the storm
Hold your head up high
And don't be afraid of the dark
At the end of the storm is a golden sky
And the sweet silver song of the lark
Walk on, through the wind
Walk on, through the rain
Though your dreams be tossed and blown
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart
And you'll never walk alone
You'll never walk alone
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart
And you'll never walk alone
You'll never walk, you'll never walk alone
“And you’ll find that you’ll recover from fate’s hardest slam, if you never say die, say damn.”
Your Present Situation is Not Your Final Destination
by Kevin Ngo
-- Falling down is how we grow. Staying down is how we die.
The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Amelia Earhart
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. –Chinese Proverb
-- I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. –Stephen Covey
--You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. –Christopher Columbus
--Ships are safe in the harbor, but that’s not what they’re made for.
-- “We have crossed the Rubicon,” ancient military leader whose army cannot now turn back once it has crossed this river.
--“I haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison
-- “If not this, what? If not us, who? If not now, when?”
~ Kennedy, John F. ~
51. If you’re going through hell, keep going – Winston Churchill.
52. Feelings come and feelings go. There is no need to fear them and no need to crave them. Let them come, and then let them go. No feeling is your permanent reality, no matter how intense it is.
53. No matter what, no matter how, where or who - you can almost always turn around and get a second chance - Anony-mouse.
54. When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us – Alexander Graham Bell.
The person you have to defeat is the person you have to look at in the mirror every morning.
"Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. "
~ Helen Keller
”Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does."
~ William James
19. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing – Helen Keller.
65. I’ve developed a new philosophy. I only dread one day at a time – Charlie Brown
Here below is the column on being positive, that has helped me. Unconsciously, I was negative and didn't know it because it was in my uncon., but for some reason I had difficulty solving problems.
When I came across this col. below, on being positive going into a problem, I knew what my problem had been: con., I wanted to solve the problem, but uncon., I was neg., and until the 2 parts of my brain could work together, I wasn't gong to solve a lot of problems.
This col. helped me to train my uncon. to be positive. Prio to my nest problem, I said to myself, just read this col. first. The problem is your uncon. neg. So I read the col. first, and by the time I got to the 4th paragraph, I had solved the problem, by first clearing my uncon. of neg. When away from the col., and I had a problem, I would say to myself, "Think positive, think positive...." again, trying to clear the neg. from my uncon.
Here's the col. below.
by Niki Scott
June 21, 1994
“We all know people who race around in small, futile circles whenever they’re present with a problem to solve, and others who seem to be natural-born problem solvers—able to tackle obstacles, calmly, logically and effectively.
“Fortunately, being a good problem-solver is not a genetic trait. It’s a learned skill, one that can be learned at any age. If you want to improve your problem-solving skills, here are 10 steps that will help:
"The three most important things of a good problem solver are attitude, attitude, and
attitude. If you think of obstacles as anxiety-producers and unfair burdens, you almost certainly aren't an effective problem solver."
“If you view obstacles as opportunities to gather new information, stretch your imagination, learn new coping mechanisms and achieve more control over your life on the other hand, you’re probably a problem-solving whiz.”
“Be an optimist. If your general outlook is pessimistic, you’re probably not a good problem solver. Facing every puzzle with the assumption that it’s probably unsolvable practically insures that it will be.”
“Happily, changing from a pessimist to an optimistic frame of mind isn’t as difficult was it might sound. Pessimism isn’t a genetic trait, either. It’s a habit of thought we learned as children—and can unlearn as adults.”
“Keep an open mind. Most problems have not just one solution, but many—and sometimes the best ones sound far-fetched or even bizarre at first.”
“Be flexible. Force yourself to give up old, outmoded ways of thinking or acting even though they’re comfortable. Experiment with new ways of thinking and acting, and you’ll be surprised by how quickly THEY become comfortable.”
“Believe in yourself—no matter what. If you believe you’ll be able to solve a problem, your chances of solving it double. Review your past successes—frequently!”
Take one step at a time. We all want guarantees that our imagination, diligence and hard work will pay off, but good problem-solvers are able to concentrate on the job at hand and move toward their personal and professional goals without blueprints or guarantees of success.”
“Ask for the help you need. There’s no shame in needing help—only in being too self-conscious, too self-protective, too proud or stubborn to ask for it.
“Don’t ask for help you don’t need. Those of us who were taught as children to run to an adult whenever a problem arose, or encouraged in other ways to be helpless and dependent, may find ourselves automatically seeking help now when a problem arises—whether or not we really need it.
“Resist the temptation. Asking for assistance before we’ve honestly tried to solve a problem robs us of our dignity, self-respect and self-confidence—too high a price to pay. “
“Respect the process—not just it’s outcome. Never discount a learning experience just because you didn’t get an A+ on the test.”
“Regardless of whether you’ve been completely successful at solving any problem, working on it almost certainly has gained you valuable experience and insight—good tools to bring with you the next time you have problem to solve!”
'Finally, never hold the past over you own head. Learn what you can from your mistakes, give yourself credit for trying, then wipe the slate clean, quickly, and give yourself the same sympathy, understanding and encouragement that you’d gladly give to any friend.”