I messed up
Also, we were long-distance in the beginning, meaning neither of us had any control over whomever without scruples might come sniffing around, trying to make trouble or prove themselves extra irresistible by bagging a 'taken one'. Granted, although we didn't trust other people, we did have enough trust in one another to outweigh the former. And that's what it boils down to. So although you SAY you trust her, no you don't and neither would I in a way... for the simple reason called, HOW DO YOU *KNOW* ALL OF THESE GOINGS-ON? Answer: SHE TELLS YOU. Note, there is more than one way to 'tell you'...as you've just witnessed.
'Accident' my arse. (...unless your name is Mumford as would put you right next to 'mum'? ) Clearly not. Because you said yourself it didn't sound like a text one would write for ones mother. Course not. Because it was written with YOU as the reader in mind.
It's like this: if you're there worrying and whittling about her then you are not in the mood to pay any attention to other women and nor are you receptive to the advances of any pushy types (because your face looks constantly like a wet weekend). In other words, no you don't trust her ENOUGH because she doesn't trust YOU enough NOR other people. And via her chosen communication channel (actions), her attitude and thinking are infecting you whereby suddenly YOU feel unsafe and can't properly quite work out why. You then act jealous which is how she gets her reassurance that you're still that into her.
HOWEVER, by having confronted her 'above-table' as well as over and above the level SHE was expecting/hoping for, you're basically blocking her (via too much hassle as well as no doubt having mentioned about how the text didn't sound mum-bound) against using this favourite reassurance-seeking trick of hers. She'd been hoping to just make you wonder and henceforth keep your mind firmly on her but without saying anything. In other words, her method was meant to be a solution (for her), not something that created even more problems. It's having had her little game humiliatingly scuppered that she's irritated with. But by saying it's because she isn't sure whether she wants to stay or part, that renders you very leery of ever again daring to confront her next time she WHOOPS! mis-sends, doesn't it (or so she hopes).
She's being a manipulative little wotsit. Reason: over-insecurity. Insecurity added to an active imagination can run riot and put a real spanner in the works if you're not careful, the pair of you. So you two need a proper, lengthy, heart-to-heart, no-holds-barred phone conversation (or even better, a visit that includes 'conjugals') to re-fill your tanks with mutual reassurance and faith enough to last the next stretch of separation.
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