A new career?
Let me tell you my story.
When I was 17 I had to choose a career, but at that time I felt like a wasn't good at anything so I choose History, yes I was good at it however I was the kind of girl that used to spend almost all her time studying, but I felt that something was wrong... and it was. I finished my first year and I didn´t like what I was doing, so I decided that it was time to tell my mom how I felt, what did she said? "No, I should not leave my career just because I wasn't feeling comfortable". Well, to be fair I didn´t have another plan, I mean I still couldn't find my vocation, so I give it another shot. Another year, I couldn't stand it, I had to leave. And that's what I did, I went to an exchange to Argentina, and that was probably the best and the worst idea I've ever had.. I have to tell you something, for more than 10 years I've always had this sad feeling inside me, but I always could hide it from everyone, I had to. So, when I left, all this sadness came out of my system it was horrible, but after gathering all my strength I when to a psychiatrist, she told me I had chronic depression. Now everything made sense. I was in treatment for a while, for the first time I felt truly positive about everything.. except for history..
And now I know what I want, I want to become an engineer, I really like math. But now here is my problem, my parents said that I need to finish history and they don't seem to believe on what I want, so when I told them about the engineer they said it was ok, but until next year (like if I was going to lose interest or something like that) I'll be 22 when I start my new career, I feel old, and with no support.. I mean I need the money of my parents to do this and it's pathetic, I understand if they don't want me to do this but should I settle? it looks just like I'm scared of working?
Thank you if you took the time to read
I was thinking about what you wrote, and thought, "Maybe they should let her take engineering, for like 1 of 2 semesters, and see how she does. If she does OK, maybe let her go another year to school."
Here's a column below that helped me.
Here below is the column on being positive, that has helped me. Unconsciously, I was negative and didn't know it because it was in my uncon., but for some reason I had difficulty solving problems.
When I came across this col. below, on being positive going into a problem, I knew what my problem had been: con., I wanted to solve the problem, but uncon., I was neg., and until the 2 parts of my brain could work together, I wasn't gong to solve a lot of problems.
This col. helped me to train my uncon. to be positive. Prio to my nest problem, I said to myself, just read this col. first. The problem is your uncon. neg. So I read the col. first, and by the time I got to the 4th paragraph, I had solved the problem, by first clearing my uncon. of neg. When away from the col., and I had a problem, I would say to myself, "Think positive, think positive...." again, trying to clear the neg. from my uncon.
Here's the col. below.
by Niki Scott
June 21, 1994
“We all know people who race around in small, futile circles whenever they’re present with a problem to solve, and others who seem to be natural-born problem solvers—able to tackle obstacles, calmly, logically and effectively.
“Fortunately, being a good problem-solver is not a genetic trait. It’s a learned skill, one that can be learned at any age. If you want to improve your problem-solving skills, here are 10 steps that will help:
"The three most important things of a good problem solver are attitude, attitude, and
attitude. If you think of obstacles as anxiety-producers and unfair burdens, you almost certainly aren't an effective problem solver."
“If you view obstacles as opportunities to gather new information, stretch your imagination, learn new coping mechanisms and achieve more control over your life on the other hand, you’re probably a problem-solving whiz.”
“Be an optimist. If your general outlook is pessimistic, you’re probably not a good problem solver. Facing every puzzle with the assumption that it’s probably unsolvable practically insures that it will be.”
“Happily, changing from a pessimist to an optimistic frame of mind isn’t as difficult was it might sound. Pessimism isn’t a genetic trait, either. It’s a habit of thought we learned as children—and can unlearn as adults.”
“Keep an open mind. Most problems have not just one solution, but many—and sometimes the best ones sound far-fetched or even bizarre at first.”
“Be flexible. Force yourself to give up old, outmoded ways of thinking or acting even though they’re comfortable. Experiment with new ways of thinking and acting, and you’ll be surprised by how quickly THEY become comfortable.”
“Believe in yourself—no matter what. If you believe you’ll be able to solve a problem, your chances of solving it double. Review your past successes—frequently!”
“Take one step at a time. We all want guarantees that our imagination, diligence and hard work will pay off, but good problem-solvers are able to concentrate on the job at hand and move toward their personal and professional goals without blueprints or guarantees of success.”
“Ask for the help you need. There’s no shame in needing help—only in being too self-conscious, too self-protective, too proud or stubborn to ask for it.
“Don’t ask for help you don’t need. Those of us who were taught as children to run to an adult whenever a problem arose, or encouraged in other ways to be helpless and dependent, may find ourselves automatically seeking help now when a problem arises—whether or not we really need it.
“Resist the temptation. Asking for assistance before we’ve honestly tried to solve a problem robs us of our dignity, self-respect and self-confidence—too high a price to pay. “
“Respect the process—not just it’s outcome. Never discount a learning experience just because you didn’t get an A+ on the test.”
“Regardless of whether you’ve been completely successful at solving any problem, working on it almost certainly has gained you valuable experience and insight—good tools to bring with you the next time you have problem to solve!”
"Finally, never hold the past over you own head. Learn what you can from your mistakes, give yourself credit for trying, then wipe the slate clean, quickly, and give yourself the same sympathy, understanding and encouragement that you’d gladly give to any friend.”
At this moment your mathematical interest can be completed by learning and implementing ABACUS or FAST MATHEMATICS technique. After you have been trained completely, you will be starting training as a professional. The training time depends on your passion and your logical level. Then you can research in other areas too.
Look - you are probably going to live to be in your 80's - so why would anyone think you could decide at 17 what you wanted to do for a career? Are you living in a culture that demands young people decide major decisions at such a young age?
Don't be afraid to be firm in your passion for math. 22 is still young.