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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2years. He's my first love and first guy and only I've been intimate with well until this summer. We spent the holidays apart about 2months and I met this guy. I don't know if it was my crave for sex or me missing my boyfriend but u found myself getting close to this guy. We literally did everything asides intercourse, I had no emotional attachment to him though . Now I'm back from the summer holiday with my boyfriend but I can't stop thinking about this guy, the way the touches me, everything he does like he drives me crazy( good crazy), when I thought things couldn't get worse I don't get turned on by my bf anymore asides thinking about this guy.. And my bf doesn't do most things he does which turned me on like ... I love my bf and if this continues things would suck for us, I'm so confused what to do. I've cut all communication with the summer guy but still... I'll appreciate your advices thanks :)

I'm stuck with my thoughts help

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I understand how you feel. I had the same problem in previous relationships. The only advice I can give is that, if you haven't already, talk to your boyfriend about what happened. It will put strain on the relationship but its always better to be honest. Don't go into details such as how many times or when or how it started. It will drive him crazy and hurt him more with all the info. You will feel better being open with him and he will feel, eventually, better for your honesty. As far as your intimacy, slowly open him up to new ideas. Maybe exchange sexy notes or new positions or visit a website that can give you both ideas. Be sure not to rush things, of course he is going to need time to make peace with what has occurred. If you are both willing to work through this then you will succeed in your relationship. If not, remember that everything happens for a reason and be sure not to lose hope in love. I hope this helps you and good luck.

I'm stuck with my thoughts help

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Hi You should be honest and tell your bf about the guy. You were unfaithful. Perhaps you hear from your bf some comnents that he had afairs, and you know more. If people are unfaithful, this is allways a sign there is something bad working in the relationship. Directly said: Do you really love your bf if you need other men?

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