Lonely for love in a commited relationship
My fiance and I have been together for 5 years. He use to be all over me with kisses, hugs and sex at the begin but now he tells me he doesn't really like to kiss. He is not much of a hugger and we rarely have sex...I am talking once every six to eight months. He tells me that he doesn't know what I want him to do. He says he loves me...I know he does but I need some physical love. He is not cheating on me. He said it was because of our weight one time (we are both chunks) but when I put us on a "diet" he does it for like a day. I have talked him about it over and over again...he just sits there in silence. I have low self esteem as is...this is not helping. He tells me that I want movie or TV romance...I just want to be wanted. I don't know what else to do.
First you need to zone in on the one thing that you would like to get as a result of being wanted. We can set our motivation to help someone however it usually can be a challenge.
Perhaps you can begin to do the things that make you happy. Get in touch with that part of yourself that you have neglected. Intimacy problems are usually rooted in low self worth and can spread out in other areas of your life that are framed around intimacy.
A profound way to help this situation is by helping yourself break out of this limitation. What are you doing right now that is contributing to your sadness?
How will your family/friends going to be affected if you donor make a change? You have to capture the motivation of your partner by setting an example. What steps can you take to do this? How would you feel when you see and feel your self image improving to the extent that you are a different person...