Two worlds apart
I have kind of a situation here. I have been in a relationship with someone younger than me for a few months now and we seem to see differently the how our worlds are supposed to come together. I explain myself, I have kids and am very close to my family. He, being a lot younger, doesn't have kids. We are moving together in less than 2 weeks but something is really upsetting me.
In the beginning of our relationship, he begged me to let him in my world, with my kids and my friends and my family, wanted to be part of it. On the other hand, I have met only his brother and it was by accident because I happened to be over when he showed up. He told me that his mom wouldn't approuve of the fact that I am older and have kids, so he wanted to ease in with her first and I'm supposed to meet her very soon. For his friends, he told me they wouldn't aprouve either and said he wanted to wait till we had been together longer, as for his best friend, she still doesn't know because she broke up with her boyfriend the day we met and he doesn't want to upset her, I feel like he's deliberatly choosing to hurt me instead of taking a little courage and tell her and I think that's not a way to start building a life together.
I have my kids full time so for me the weekend is when I feel like me, like I'm my own person and the evenings in the weekend is the only time when I rediscover my name, I'm not a technician, I'm not mom, I have an identity at last, but the last weekend he spent all of it away and he's planning on doing the same thing again in 2 weeks. I don't know if it's the fact that I already don't feel like part of his life or the fact that I would want to share my free time with him.
Plus whenever I am doing something with my friends, he's coming too so I feel like he's ashamed or something like that.
To top it of, he will never tell me what's wrong and harrasses me to do it, to talk more, I feel like he's keeping me at a safe distance from his world and wants me to completly open mine, I'm feeling a big unfairness in all this situation. Maybe I'm overreacting but maybe , just maybe I'm right and the fact that nothing's changing should give me a clue of what I mean to him.
I forgot one important detail I guess, he told me about 2 weeks in the relationship that before meeting me he was waiting for his bestfriend to break up with her ex and then take his chance. They dated about 11 years ago.