I've been married for 9 years real soon going to 10 yrs it's already been more than 3 weeks he has been working from 5 am till 7 pm and I work from 5pm till 12 am we have very little communication we have not have sex because he is tired he does not want to talk about my feelings towards him because he has no time and he does not spend time with me nor our son I don't know what to do I feel so lonely sad
He's working almost twice as many hours a day as You. That's a major reason he seems detached and is consistently tired. Aren't You tired after a 7 hour shift? Imagine working twice that. i'm not trying to jump on Your back; I just want You to consider this if You haven't yet. He is obviously loyal to You guys, and Loves You. Otherwise, he wouldn't have stayed with You for so long, and he wouldn't be coming home to You two every night. Don't just try to talk to him about Your feelings. Ask him how he feels. Ask him how work has been. Ask him how his boss treated him. Anything to get him to talk. It will begin to restore Your bond--if it even needs restoration. Maybe even give him a back-rub while he tells You about his day. He may not want sex right now, but he obviously wants You. Please don't feel lonely, because that can cause a whole lot of unnecessary problems. He's right next to You for about 4 hours in bed, right? You're not alone, and You shouldn't feel lonely. Remember, that IS Your husband
This is not a good situation. You two are like ships in the night, passing each other.
Every effort should be made for one of you to get on a different shift - one that matches the other's schedule.
There is your son to consider.
Don't let this go on.
I agree with Susie. It may not seem convenient to make a big change right now on the surface, but it is definitely necessary. In the meantime i'm sticking with what I said above, but do all You can to heed Susie's advice