So basically I've been with my girl for over a year, we are each other's first everything pretty much, one night about a week after my knee surgery I got super super drunk and some girl offered me a place to stay the night, I went there expecting just to sleep cause I was so drunk, but she came onto me and me being extremely drunk I didn't know what to do anyway turns out that we did have sex, so my girlfriend found out from an old friend that this has happened and has been off and on with me, which is understandable, I'm just concered because her friends are telling her to move on, but how can we move on when we see each other everyday and we love each other so much I'm just so confused
That was a horrible thing to do to her!! No one deserves that! Why did u even call the other girl?? If u needed a ride or place to stay why didn't u call her or another friend?? Why would u even think it's right to stay the night at another woman's home?? Idk I just feel like when u have someone special in our life that u have a bond and share a lot of firsts with that's so special. Good woman don't come around like that very of often. Let's hope she can find it in her heart to forgive u but I don't blame her if she doesn't because that's going to be a hard one for her to get over. I've been in her situation and it's the worst pain in the world. The other woman should be ashamed of herself also what a dumb bitch I would punch her right now for our girl if I could. What a home wrecker and u threw some thing good away for one night with some how. Let's hope u used protection at least.
I know what you mean, buts it's the fact that I thought she was being nice because I had to where to stay I was litter ally homeless for the night I thought I was going into the guest room, but I was too drunk to even think probably when it happened I'm just so gutted like I deserve everything I get but I don't wanna lose her she's everything to me
I'm sorry about my response earlier that was pretty harsh. Don't be so hard on yourself. All u can do is move forward and try to make it right and treat her like the queen that she deserves but you both need to talk about it. That's the only way you'll both work towards healing is talking and working through it together.
The harsh reality is that being drunk isn't really a valid excuse. If you truly love someone then the thought of cheating on them shouldn't even cross your mind, not for a second. I can't help but feel you couldn't have been that drunk as you still managed to get an erection and consciously have sex, that takes a lot of thought to do so. Maybe you need to have a word with yourself and think do you really, honestly love this girl, because if you do this again you will absolutely destroy her self esteem, confidence and trust, if you haven't done so already. If she takes you back then she is a saint, because god knows many many women wouldn't. If you want to stay with her and truly love her then you need to figure out a way of showing it, give her as much space as she needs but let her know you are still there and you will wait forever for her because she's worth it. However staying together will most likely bring trust issues and cause arguments, but you need to be understanding and accept this and work with her, because at the end of the day it was you that broke the trust originally. Good luck. At the end of the day if it's meant to be it's meant to be.
"we are each other's first everything pretty much"
That about says it all. No - you AREN'T each other's first. You even admit that you aren't.
You screwed up BIG TIME. Perhaps it's because you are young (in your 20's?) and are not capable of being exclusive to any one girl.
I have no advice except to encourage you to realize your own capabilities and ability/inability.