He'll have me do little things like draw on his back at night to help him sleep and I do even if I'm really tired but he can't rub my back
Or I may not have cleaned the house to the point you see your reflection in everything but it's clean yet instead of thanking me he complains about what I haven't done and makes it sound like I do 0% of anything in the house
Now I work and I'm a full time student who also takes care of our daughter 98% of the time I'm not perfect aND I'm not expecting him to be I just want a little understanding and compassion
I would remind him of the little things you do like "drawing on his back" Where is my back rub? Tell him I work, go school, taking care of OUR children, and he has the nerve to complain that my cleaning doesn't meet your standards?
Tell what you said above: " I need you to SHOW me you want/need me not only physically but emotionally. I need you to put more effort in being understanding, show me more compassion, I need to feel loved and appreciated by you and lately haven't.
Suggest having a Date Night. How he response of course will either tell you he "Hear you" or he was just "listening "to you.
you need to communicate, he has to know how u r feeling and u need to know how hes feeling.
maybe hes under stress and thats why hes acting in a certain way. try not to fight. u need to understand each other
approach him in a good way, let him know exactly how ur feeling, hear him out. try to understand where hes coming from and he should do the same.
get to a solution if u felt theres a problem somewhere.
but do it calmly. talk about it like adults. and im sure u will be fine.
but with out communication. nothing will be fixed
and never let him take u for granted. if u let him once, u will let him twice and at some point he'll stress stepping on u because u let him.
draw a line.. be that woman
Sorry, couldn't resist. But yes, agree with TDOS (implicatons-wise). He's happy to get away with whatever he can get away with, which obviously for too long has included you being the Giver and he being the Taker. For starters, it's supposed to be Give and Receive, not Take, i.e. "I do not love because I am loved. I am loved because I love".
It's taking because he has the chutzpah to ASK for things despite being all too aware he's not doing his own share of giving, even when you make a point of asking. So it's not like he wants there to be less interaction all-round on both sides, is it. Just on yours.
Agree you need to sit him down and tell him (nicely but in no uncertain terms) how unfair and greedy he's being.
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