Confused between two women
I have been in a long-distance relationship for more than 4 years; when my first-love broke my heart. A few months afterwards I met a lovely girl using online dating site... she isn't what I expected in terms of looks... but she has a kind heart and makes me feel great to be around her. A few weeks ago my ex- reached out and said she wants us to get back together... I am very confused about what to do...help?
Listen to your instinct and not your heart. Your ex broke off a 4 year relationship, now she wants it back. Ask yourself if you NEED her and the relationship back, rather than just being part of a want. It takes a lot of effort to maintain a successful relationship, let alone a 4 year LDR...and 4 years is a lot of history.
Take your thoughts further and look at your ex and her reasons for breaking it off and now wanting it back. You need to put yourself first and foremost in this situation and if your instinct trusts your ex and lets you trust yourself to make the decision to get back together, then you will, but if your instinct rebels against it, and confuses your head and your thoughts, then you need to listen to it and move on for now.
Forget about your heart..it will only lead you to further trouble if it's not in line with your head and your gut.
nice reply Manalone : I agree