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Boyfriend doesn't seem to care. I'm torn about what to do

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Children & Young People advice I moved I. With my boyfriend shortly before I gave birth to our first(only) child. He has an elderly dog and I have an adult dog. Shortly After our child was born his dog became ill, started having accidents everywhere, drinking a ton of water and doing gross other things I won't list. He refused to take him to the vet despite my pushing that it's probably nothing that he will have to put him down for. Well the poor dog suffered 6 weeks with a freaking UTI because of my boyfriend. That was treated and the accidents got better, not as often but we're still happening. They've recently gotten worse again and he just got started on some meds to hopefully fix the muscle in there. WELL, we live in a tiny one bedroom house that now reeks of ammonia/urine and if I mention anything about the accidents he gets angry with me. I've tried cleaning the carpets but I think the moisture in the carpet(urine and from cleaning) has caused mildew on the walls. We have a 5 month old that has to live in this and it's beginning to make me fee sick so I know it's got to be awful for him.

I love my boyfriend SO MUCH but I cannot see making my son live like this or myself. I cannot talk to him about it because he just gets mad. We've recently started looking at other places to move but he's super hesitant about moving I think because he won't have as much money to buy crap with then.

I just don't know what to do. A very large part of me wants to just move home with my son and my dog but I do t want to have to do that to him, to be away from him or feel like I'm taking our son from him.

Boyfriend doesn't seem to care. I'm torn about what to do

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Mildew/moisture will cause mold which is toxic for you and your baby. This is a serious health risk you must get out of there ASAP.
Your baby depends on you to make the right decision regarding his safety and health risk. Do not stay in these conditions and put your husbands needs above your son.

DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR SON.

Boyfriend doesn't seem to care. I'm torn about what to do

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(Yes, not to mention ammonia fumes!)

Completely and utterly agree with SG! You need to move yourself and the baby out so that a professional deep-cleaning company who knows how to rectify this can come in and do their stuff as rapidly as possible. If your husband would ever be so irresponsible and childish as to take that move personally and sulkily insist on staying put or not paying - even when he was the one CAUSED all this - then, boo-hoo and tough tittie to him, he can spend the alone time growing up a bit, can't he, whilst you tell the cleaning company to address the invoice to him.

In other words, cease talking to him about it and just start packing.

Boyfriend doesn't seem to care. I'm torn about what to do

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(forgot the link) https://www.health.ny.gov/environmental/emergency/chemical_terrorism/ammonia_tech.htm

Boyfriend doesn't seem to care. I'm torn about what to do

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Why do YOU feel bad about leaving him?

Why is HE not afraid that you and the baby will leave if he doesn't make some hard decisions about a sick dog and his wife and child and the health of his own home. (You don't say if you rent or not, but the landlord will have a fit about this, too)

Do you think he will FINALLY pay attention to you and his baby if you leave?

Boyfriend doesn't seem to care. I'm torn about what to do

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Have you taken steps to get you and your son out of there?

Please take this seriously, you should also have your baby seen by his pediatrician ASAP.

Moving will be of no benefit, if your dogs are not potty trained.

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