Blended family issues
I have been married for just over 2 years to my husband. This marriage is both our second marriage. We were both divorced for quite some time before we got married. I have a teenage son and my husband has 4 daughters age range from 24 to 17 years old. All 4 of his daughters have been against us getting married and being together. The youngest daughter has gone so far as to say that he should asked for her permission from his daughters before he ever considered marry me.
We lived in different towns and when we decided that we wanted to be together I had to put my current house up for sale and purchased a home in his hometown. Unfortunately, it is a very small town and his entire family lives here as well as his exwife and her family. It is very difficult for me to accept the fact that I was forced to move to this town if I wanted to be with him. I left my hometown, I pulled my son out of his school, I sold my house, and left my family to try and to become a part of his but it isn't working out.
3 of his daughters lived with him before we got together in his mom's house. When I bought a new house in the new town we all moved in together. Over the next 2 years all three of his girls have left on bad terms. They all hate me and they don't hide it. I have tried very hard to be patient and to be understanding and not pushy with his girls. But unfortunately no matter what they were never going to give me a chance. Now he blames me. He has told me that it is all my fault that they have left and he can't believe that I allowed them to leave. How in the world was I supposed to stop any of it from happening? THey are all mean girls and have no respect for him or me. And I cannot just allow them to disrespect me or him in our home. It is a horrible place to be. Knowing your husband blames you for his girls leaving when I wasn't to blame. They chose to hate me and never wanted me to be in his life. I never tried to discipline them, I never got in their faces, and I was never cruel to them.
On the other side of things, we also have no romantic relations. We will go months (like 6-8months) without having sex. It is crazy to me that he doesn't have any desire to be with me in any way. Not sure where is am supposed to go with all these issues. I am beginning to believe that marrying him was a mistake. He won't stand up for me with his girls. He won't stand up for himself with his girls. He won't spend time with me or be romantic with me. What am I supposed to do? I am at my wits end and not sure what I can do.
I feel sorry for you,you sold your house to follow him to his home town,It just shows that you really loved this guy.6-8 months without sex it just shows that he doesnt love u.My advice is that you should involve marriage councillors to intervene and find out what is wrong in your relationship.