Hello here is my problem. I have been with my boyfriend for a year 4 months, i love him so much and iam super attracted to him. When we met he wanted to have sex with me regularly. Now we have had sex once or twice in like 4 or 5 months. Iam very self conscious i have always been because im sorry if this is too much information but i have black pigmentation in between my legs i hate it it is so ugly i dont know why i have it ive always had it evem my elbows and underarms are a little black so i dont like for him to see me with the lught on i think iam pretty everyone tells me iam i am 5 ft 135 pounds i have a nice body i guess but that is my flaw the biggest one so i think hes grossed out of me. Thats the only lohical explanation to me but he says that he loves me alot he is so sweet to me he buy me everything i want we work together he has never insulted me he is a sweetheart and i feel he lo c es me alot. But i want to k ow if its possible to love someone but not be attracted to them. When i met him he had just had a baby and so i know he was sexually active he has 4 baby mommas and before that baby he had one about a year or so. So i know he was sexual with his other woman he has had in the past. We used to kiss alot like french kiss now we just peck kiss. He is not affectionate at all. It pisses me off because we make a great team but deep inside iam so unhappy in this relationship i crave him i love him he is so sexy to me and it makes me so angry and hate him alittle because i want him to like me and if he fosent i want him to move on and let me find someone that really likes me. I need passion and sex iam 27 still young and still wanting to feel that feeling. It just makes me sad becuase i know he dosent like me i dont turn him on at all. We have talked about all this and all he says is its him not me. I dont understand. I mean its been months. I dont know what to do. Ive caught him watching porn im so self conscious i have low self esteem i feel ugly around him i feel hideous. Its so bad that when he hears songs on the radio and they talk about pretty girls i wanna cry. It sucks because i reaaly like him alot to me he is the most sexiest guy ever. And i like him so much i feel like he is too good looking for me but all my friends tell me that im too pretty for him. He has a really high self esteem he thinks he is so handsome he is very confident. Im just at a breaking point i dont think i can be with someone who isnt attracted to me or dosent like to have sex to me sex is when two people who are in love come together and become one i want to kiss him and show my affection that way by caressing each other. I hope i can get some good advice im new here but i dont have anyone i trust or that i can talk to about this. I am just tired of it inreally love him but he dosent get it. Why could he be with the other girls and not me? He says he loves me more than anyone he has ever loved. Im just confused but not really cus i know deep inside he really dosnet like me or my flaws are too much. Sorry had to vent. Thanks
Iam sorry about mispelling words and stuff i wrote too fast and didnt go back to check if i mispelled anything.
Hi MRS.THOMPSON, has he seemed distant in general and no longer interested in the relationship ? And have you guys talked considering whether or not he still wants to be with you ? You guys should seriously talk things out so you can see where his head is at, tell him to let you know exactly how he feels and that he doesn't have to sugar coat. Tell him to be 100 percent honest with you no matter what the problem may be because for all you know what he's keeping from u could better your relationship of that problem is addressed. & be honest with yourself also. Do you have an attitude ? Do you give him space ? Do you smother him ? Do you keep yourself looking nice at all times when you're around him ? Guys don't like their girls to get too comfortabe and start looking thrown away. It could be anything, really.
Regarding the skin issue- see a dermatologist or ob gyn there may be some skin creams to help. Has he actually said he's grossed out or are you assuming he is? The " It's not you it's him " and the old classic "He says he loves me more than anyone he has ever love" seems like a red flag to me.
You need to have him explain what he means by this? His words do not match his actions, and ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS! Is there a possibility that he maybe still involved with one of his four baby mamas? You said he had just had a baby when you met him so how well do you really know him in just 4 months? Why has he not married any of these woman?