I no longer love my husband
I've been married for 6 years, we have a 4 year old daughter. I'm no longer in love with my husband. We don't fight, as a matter of fact we have never even raised our voices at each other. We are both in our late 30s and are currently living with my parents. We lost our house about 2 years after marriage because I was laid off from work I thought that living with my parents was going to be temporary but its been 4 years now. I'm currently working and have been for about 2 years now. I can't take not having my own place much longer. We have not had sex in about 9 months. We don't even speak to each other. He does not tell me bye or see later when he leaves. I have to take our daughter to school every morning and when I do ask him to take her he always ask why can't I do it. Because we are limited to one room and we share one really small closest our room is a mess. I've tried talking to him and let him know how I feel but nothing ever changes. We never do anything as a family because he says he is tired. So its always just me and my daughter. Most of the time when we get back from our outing my husband is gone. I cry myself to sleep often. I don't want to try to make it work anymore. We are two totally different people. I'm into church and he is not. I'm into family time and he is not. During dinner my daughter and myself eat at the table while my husband eats in the bedroom. I don't know what to do anymore, i just want a divorce and my own place. What should I do, please help.
Hey I suggest you have a vacation together or went out of town.. so u can somehow work in ur connection, you have been detached from ur husband for quite a well. ur relationship is in fact really healthy excluding communication.. Communication is one of the keys to a happy relationship and u guys lack that... I really do think you should give ur relationship that coz u bought are in a very weird situation..
Go out for a family dinner.. tell him about the feelings ur are going though and also ask him if he has got something to say about it.. communication is really very important. Don't let ur relationship to break, you have a daughter atlst give it a chance for her.. Wish u Luck ..
why is it that your husband is so "absent" ? has he always been so little involved or has this been happening over time ? has the fact you're living at your parents home anything to do with it ? does he not feel involved with being a father to his daughter ? why ? where does he go when he goes out and what does he do ?
what exactly is he tired about - apart from work ? anything that's mentally or emotionally tiring him ? why is it that he doesn't seem to want to go looking for a place for you all to be together with your daughter - since you both seem to work now ?
why don't you have sex anymore ? who doesn't want it anymore and why ?
it seems he is not very willing to make adjustments for the sake of both of you and the family you have - that he just wants to "do his thing" : why ?
you both need indeed to communicate and he needs to tell you what's going on
We have our talk about 3 times a year. We talk about how we feel avout each other, and I think what made it worst is about 2 years ago I told him that I no longer liked him. When ever we have our talks things change for about a week than its back to normal. When he leaves he always leaves on his motorcycle. I asked him where does he goes and he said no where he just rihaveround because its relaxing. When I started back working he seemed as if he didn't want to move out of parents house. I personally went out and did all the paper work and was pre approved for a home loan. But he didn't seem to want to be involved. I went out and looked at houses alone and I didn't want to do it alone since we were married and I wanted to do things together. Now I revert waiting on him as the housing market has gone up. I have a life to live and I no longer let him keep me from doing thing because he does not feel like doing them. I've reconnected with an old friend and I always ask my husband first and if he says no I always end up doing stuff with my friend. No worries we are only friends and I could never see myself having a affair. For the past 6 months I have been out with my friend at least 12 times.
At my job I use to never entertain my customers and I would always tell them I'm married. Due to the lack of attention at home I no longer care. I'm loving the attention, from both male and female. Yes its to the point where I find myself flirting with the ladies as much as the men.