I'm 50 and he's 21, he is sensitive and I hurt him many times
I am 50 and date a 21 year old. He is wise beyond his years. We have been together a year. When we are together everything is wonderful. The problem is when we are apart. We live in different states. I fly to see him twice a month. He is moving in with me this month. He is a very dependent person emotionally. He prefers to stay connected by being on the phone all the time, even when we sleep. I am retired so I have time. The problem is he thinks I should be there 24/7 for him. He seems to get jealous when I spend my time with my 17 year old daughter, family and friends. He thinks I should make him my priority and be there solely for him. I am close to my family so I always talk to them or do things with my family. He feels I ignore him, but what I am doing is living life. He gets hurt by me putting someone else in front of him. How do I deal with this?
It sounds like he's insecure about something. Try to find out what he's afraid of. Maybe he thinks your family and friends don't support your relationship. Maybe he's afraid of losing you. Maybe he has some trust issue. We can guess at what's going on, but that won't help much. Try talking to him about it to see what's going on with him, and explain that you feel a little constrained by it. A lover always wants to feel as though they are the priority, the number one thing in your life. You need to find out how to let him know that he is your priority, but also find a healthy balance so you can both enjoy some necessary freedom and alone time. Maybe you could still show him some attention when you go out? Do you text him or send him pictures of what you're doing, make him feel involved? Perhaps that's all he needs to feel better. Talk to him about it, try different things, and I'm sure you two can find a way to work it out.