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Relationship advice Long story cut short.
I used to get along with my husbands family and we had two children before we got married. my in-laws were great with my kids and we all got along. Then my husband and I tied the knot in 2013 and since then his family (mainly his mum) have been cold with me. I suffered a miscarriage in 2014 and we kept it to ourselves but my husband let it slip one day and instead of her being sympathetic towards us she started crying and said she couldn't believe we never told her. plus she then told the rest of the family - but didn't receive one 'sorry'. Then our luck came when I was pregnant again this time we told both sets of parents. mine were very excited but not one word of congrats from my in laws or husbands siblings.at this point my husbands mum saw my kids 1 every 2 months where there granddad would come round at least every 2 weeks. then I had my daughter in September and my mother in law managed to come round. but since then she has not asked after our new born (been 5 weeks) and my other two children only see her when there granddad makes the effort to ask them round, plus my husbands siblings have never meet there niece (she is now 13weeks)................should I just cut ties with them all or try make effort??

Advise about husband's family

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I think that maybe you shouldn't cut ties but lessen your expectations of your in-laws. You cannot force them to view you in any other way than they do. You cannot force them to be involved with your children either. Have you tried to sit down, mom to mom, with your mother in law? Tell her that her actions are hurting you?
There may be a reason behind the cold shoulder that you are receiving. Does your husband tell his mother when the two of you disagree or fight?
It may just boil down to some families are not as tight knit as others.

Advise about husband's family

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Thanks TAMIS.

Yes both myself and my husband have sat down with my mother in law to talk but she doesn't want to here it !!!! My husband has hardly a relationship with his mum anymore. she has let him down too much.

I just feel sorry for my children at the end of the day. and I don't wont dramas. but I know once we start planning the children's birthdays and my daughters christening she is going to expect to be invited, when she 100% wont be!!

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