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Am I being unreasonable about my boyfriends social media?

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Relationship advice So its no secret that many relationships struggle due to social media, in today's society

I would rather not include myself in that epidemic... However..
I cannot help but feel immensely insecure, jealous, and untrusting at times.

My boyfriend has a Facebook, Instagram, and Tumblr. He posts about me pretty regularly on Facebook.. However, I am nowhere to be found (with the exception of me commenting on some of his pictures) on his Instagram.

Is that a ridiculous thing to feel odd about?

My other concern is this: he follows a lot of fitness pages. Male and female. And his life revolves around fitness, so it makes sense, obviously. But.. While some of the females are legitimate fitness inspiration and professionals.. Some of them are tasteless, overly sexual, attention seeking girls.


And it makes me feel weird.

But I need to get some feedback here... Am I overreacting?


Please help!!

Am I being unreasonable about my boyfriends social media?

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Deer EILYK4213, I wonder if you are also a fitness follower..? I have been married (to the same wonderful man) for over 30 years...having lots of things in common helped to build, maintain and work through the rough times of our years together. If you are not into fitness as much as he is, than perhaps he is hesitant to share photos of you with his work out pals??..I definitely DON'T think you are overreacting-I would feel the same way, however, it's also no reason to get angry or to freak out on him- just start a casual dialogue on his fitness interests and see where the conversation goes.

Am I being unreasonable about my boyfriends social media?

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I have undergone my own fitness journey,actually! And although I haven't been as involved lately, its definitely an interest of mine, and I follow some fitness pages myself. I actually met him while I was working for a gym!

So its not the fact that he follows fit females that bothers me... Its the fact that some of them aren't so much "fitness" pages, as they are "sexual pages"..

And I just don't love the idea.

And I'm very average sized, not overweight at all. and like I said before, he makes posts all the time including me in Facebook... Its only Instagram that I'm non existent. Which makes me uneasy.

Am I being unreasonable about my boyfriends social media?

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Hello EILKY4213, I think a lot depends on how long you two have been together, trust is something that takes time to build if your relationship is fairly new- give it some time and try not to allow yourself to become overly concerned about his Instagram activities- instead, concentrate on doing things to strengthen your positive feelings for one another. Those women (and men) who put themselves "out there" in an overly sexual manner usually have some kind of issue or an agenda...and they're ALWAYS going to be there to attract attention to themselves! It's the strength of a relationship that keeps two people's interest focused on each other rather than all those exibitionists.

Am I being unreasonable about my boyfriends social media?

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Is he posting to these overly sexual fitness pages? If he is then you need to be up front tell you this makes you feel. Ask him if there a reason your non-existent on his Instagram. You both should be completely open with each other regarding social media sites period, anything other than being transparent is bull S*h*t.

Am I being unreasonable about my boyfriends social media?

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He doesn't interact with them, to my knowledge (and I've been looking for that in particular).. But I have asked him about my absence on IG and his response was "no reason"....

Am I being unreasonable about my boyfriends social media?

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Then tell him you want him to friend you /like you whatever they do on Instagram today.

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