Seriously trapped, and feeling suicidal because of it
Now, this isn't MY problem, but by proxy it has become mine. This is a situation going on with a very dear (long distance) friend of mine who doesn't know where to go for help. We'll call her B for short, since I don't really want to reveal too much about her identity.
B has been homeschooled for her entire life, and her parents are very controlling, and seemingly neurotic and/or abusive. Just before she turned seventeen, she began going to college classes. She just now turned eighteen, and she's expressed to me that the stress of school is getting her down to the point where she has suicidal thoughts. If she doesn't get good grades, her parents make it very clear how lowly they think of her. She is only on this education path because they've put her on it- in fact, she doesn't even know the specifics, other than that the degree she's working to finish this year will be worthless unless she transfers to a four-year university afterwards. Which absolutely horrifies her, since we're only on the third week back to school and she's already gotten so depressed.
She is 100% financially dependent on them, can not handle getting a job right now, and has no friends she'd be able to move in with, and living on-campus (away from family) is not an option.
At this point, it looks like she really is trapped. I'm just wondering how I can help her cope. We live a few states apart (in the U.S.) and I feel completely powerless. I don't want to lose my friend.
I'm asking for any advice, regarding my support or her situation. Thank you.
Also, I'd like to add- She has admitted to not looking forward to much in her day, as well as having an emotional dependency on people. Specifically, one of her other friends and myself. I tried to suggest that she create other things to look forward to in the day, but she sort of brushed that off.
How might she begin to remedy this as well, namely the emotional dependency part? She's admitted to not knowing how to stop this.
I see a sheltered girl raised by controlling, critical parents, overwhelmed by school and the real world, who is now latched on to you and another person for emotional support.
You are not a therapist, but rather a friend. And you are far away from her, so that complicates the issue.
Professional help is needed. Encourage her to seek help. The campus medical center should give her a referral.
That's what I see as well, SUSIEDQQ.
Here's the thing. Her parents are judgmental toward just about anything, and their view on mental health is that you only go to a "shrink" if you're "screwed up in the head". Since she's already treated like the 'black sheep' of her family, I doubt that her seeking professional help would be possible and/or beneficial.
The college she goes to does have a school therapist/counselor. It took a lot of coaxing on my part for her to finally see this counselor, as B had adopted a similar view of mental health as her parents (though in the past couple of months she's made great strides in a positive direction involving that). Anyway, the program that she's in that allows her to go to this school only allows 6 counselor visits per year, and this counselor obviously does not have certain abilities that other therapists may have (prescribing medication, beginning therapy plans, etc.).
For her, seeking outside professional help is not an option.