Should I move with my uncle?
I have an uncle that I've only met once in person(he was in the military). however, I do occasionally FaceTime with him and his wife. My uncle and my mother are very close, so he can't be a horrible person. I was actually supposed to move in with him 2 years ago with my grandmother, unfortunately, she passed before we could move. since I started college, my grandma has been trying to get me to move over there. The only thing is that I never lived with anyone else besides my mother(I'm 21) and I'll be moving to another state (which is 4 hours away). I flunked out of community college(twice), I'm completely lost in life and I don't know what I'm doing, and maybe a change in scenery might help. My uncle was in the army and he graduated college so maybe his discipline and college experience can help me more than my mother(she never went to college). he also said that he would try to help me pay for college. sometimes my mother tries to discourage me to move with him because he very strict about cleanliness (I'm not dirty but who doesn't forget to take out the trash). My uncle lives in a small town (the city I live isn't that big, but it's bigger than this town) which is almost 2 hours from Houston, Tx. I have at least 20 relatives that live in Houston. My uncle also is bipolar or schizophrenia (I can't remember which one) he got it from car side bombing in the military. should I move with my uncle? any tips or advice is welcome. thanks
Hello there. Maybe a change will be good for you but only you can answer that.
It would be a good idea to meet up with him and his wife and your mother and discuss it through with him, what he expects for housekeeping and ground rules from you and what you also expect.
I think it would also help if you could draw up a list of pros and cons for moving there. Do this over a week and keep adding to it. At the end of the week if you have more pros than cons you know that it's a go-er.
Could you also have a trial period living there say a month, to see if it's for you?
Hope that helps.