How can i help my friend and myself?
hi all, here is my problem and I urgently need help as its really effecting me. there are two parts to the problem so i'll split it into two paragraphs. if anyone needs any more info to help make a solution just ask.
Anyway, my best friend (who i'll call lucas) tells pretty much everything to me, and I do the same with him, so we have very few or no secrets between us. however, a few days ago he told me something that I am only now realising the true extent of. anyway he told me that he has been having loads less emotion recently, and he said that his "emotions have flatlined" and said that he doesn't really care about anything anymore, and when he has a good time or is happy it feels forced. now don't get me wrong, on the outside he seems really energetic and happy most of the time so I don't know if he's overreacting or something. So how can I help him in any way? cause obviously its good if he were able to feel more emotions. is it just part of puberty or something? because we are both 14 but are pretty mature for our age.
and secondly, the bigger problem for me, is that recently I have been feeling gay feelings and being attracted to a few other guys. not so much sexually but I just think they are either really nice people or are good looking. and for a few months now I have been getting more and more attracted to my best friend. I just think he's funny and handsome and we have loads in common. now because I live in a semi accepting society of being gay, its hard enough trying to come out or to deal with my feelings for lucas. but now he told me what he did, I feel really down because not only does it show that he doesn't like me back, but that he might not have feelings for me at all. which scares me and upsets me. what should I do? what do I do next?
My suggestion would be to just let him know that you still want to be his friend and mostly because you have so much in common and consider him someone you can trust be yourself around, and you feel you can confide in him well. Its possible that he is going through something and is unsure how to express it to you (could be something totally unrelated to your friendship). If you guys have little secrets between you, in due time, I think you will be able to discuss with him how your concerns for him.
You are both still so young so try and just enjoy the friendships you have, and try not worry so much about whether or not they like you back; spending time together and enjoying each others company says more about their feelings toward you than words do.
Take care and try not to worry too much