My wife lent money form the kids savings account to her sister. She transferred the money into her brother in laws account.
when I found out I said its not right touching the kids saving for your sister and also it don't like you sending it to your brother in laws account. so eventually they paid us back
She promised me she wont send anymore to his account.
I saw her bank statements for the past six months and I saw her brother in law sent money to her which she withdrew and then sent over to india to her sister.
We had agree since I don't like him that she shouldn't be receiving or sending money to him. I told her he should be sending her money and no point for him to send it to you first.
I need advice..am I being wrong here or is she in the wrong...should I ask her or should I not???
please advice me I am losing sleep over this
First of all I'd say the under no circumstance should she touch tour kids money. Second, you two are supposed to be married. A team. Neither one of you should make serous decisions without talking about it first. YES you should say something to her! I don't know why he would send her money at all unless it's to pay you back. Also why wouldn't she just send it to her sister? What does her brother in law have to do with loaning her sister money. If I were you I'd get to the bottom of that.dont wait do not now. Waiting will only fuel your fire and then you at find out she's still going against your wishes. Again you guys are married so this needs be addressed. Hope this helps.
He has already paid us back. For some reason he could not send money do his wife(his wife is my wife's sister). So he would send the money my wife bank account and then my wife would withdraw and send it to India to her sister. The fact that I don't like him and the face that I asked my wife not to send or receive money from him and she agree is what gets me the most.
I will bring it up and tell her I feel hurt confused.
So I asked her if she had received any money from her brother in law to send to her sister. she said no and I should accuse her and that I'm crazy because I make things up. So I said I know you have then she said she did it because her sister needed the money as a urgent matter and he didn't have time. then I told her I saw her bank statement and that she have reveived over £1700 and that was not for her sisters personal need it was for his business needs in india and that I don't like him and he don't like me then you should be doing him any favours. she started crying very loudly and said she cant walk feels dizzy and thinks she will have a heart attack. Then I have to give in and said I'm sorry for asking you. so she felt a bit better but is trill a bit stroppy.
I have now just realized he has given her a £100 tip for helping him out. I'm really unsure about what I can do
I am totally stressed...I need to know to do..please help. am I over reacting??
Your wife is being used as the middle person in this money transfer. Could this be to avoid something illegal?
WHY does she have to be the middle person?
Nope nothing illegal as far as I can tell.
Her brother in law sends it from his back account to her then she cashes it out and sends it via a money transfer agent
I don't why he didn't do it himself, why they didn't tell me, why she lied when I asked and why she accepted a £100 gift from the man who I hate.
Is it me ???
No its not you. The fact that she pulled "I'm dizzy can't walk" business is because she got caught. You told her how you felt about it and she ignores your feelings. You need to either put your foot down on this or let it go. Its not right for a spouse to go behind your back about anything much less something you have told her really upsets you. You are right in this. Just so you know.
This situation tells a lot about your marriage. Your wife is acting as a go-between for two relatives, which upsets you (She is NOT accepting a "gift" from anyone, she is just moving the funds through her bank account, and you don't even know WHY) You sneak to find out about it, then feel betrayed about her behavior. She continues the same actions and is not able to even talk to you about it honestly.
No one is "right" or "wrong" here - it just sounds like honesty and trust is not the basis of your marriage.
Please see a couples counselor to help you sort all this out.
She definitely accepted a gift. There was no sneaking around i found her bank statement in kitchen accidentally. He transfered Some money which has been spend by my wife. Yes i agree with you its not the best of marriages.i know the purpose of transfer was because he wanted to but land in india but he could not be bothered to do it himself.
I asked her over and over again if her gifted her any money she out rightly denies it. she said did know who was making the transfer and the money was for her sister. then when I ask how much did he send she said about 200 quid which is clearly wrong. I have seen the bank statement it was 900, 500 and a few more.