Do you know if your wife has any reason to be angry at you, for at males in general? Was she sexually abused? Does she have emotional problems, depression, anxiety? Does her mother or father, sister or brother, aunts or uncles, have emotional problems? Did her mother treat her father like this? What do you think it is?
Was she this way when you met her Did she change after the first child was born??
Does she realize for the sake of the children, she needs your salary and help with the kids? What is she, crazy? What would she do if you left and took your salary with you? She'd collapse.
Can't she see that for the sake of the children, she needs to knock it off? Doesn't she realize what effect it has on the kids when you two don't get along?
I would ask her, what is it with you? What are you angry about? What do you want me to do? I had a woman up the street who had it out for me, and I figured out, that she had been sexually abused, and was taking it out on me. It helps to try and figure it out. Maybe her panties are in a bunch. Tell her maybe she needs to try a different brand.
Whatever it is, she's winning. She's diving you up the wall. Why? Can you give a report back?
You also said, "The slightest thing wrong and she gets intensely angry with me."
You're getting close to home now.
I'm manic-depressive, so maybe she has something like that. You can go to the search engine, and type in that name, and read the descriptions of that ailment.
I would do that, because it would be nice to know what is going on with her. Do any of her relatives have mental illness? Was she like this when you met her? Did she get like this after her first child? I'm on lithium, which lowers mania and lessens depression. I'm also on an anti-dep.
Right after I took the first lithium, when I was about 30, I felt like the air had been let out of a balloon. I couldn't believe how tense I had been. I should have been put on lithium years before. I had been misdiagnosed. If they don't diag. you right, they can't med. you right. So the diag. is very impt.
Look up man.-dep., and see how many symptoms she matches up with. Does she get dep.? Does she get manic, as in excited or angry? Are there a few hours or a few days when she's wonderful, which could be in-between those cycles.
Does she have a hard time going to sleep, or sleep too much? Does she stay up until midnight? Does she sometimes have a lot of ideas, so many she can't keep with them? Some days she doesn't have any, and doesn't want to get out of bed?
If you see this, or whatever she may have, see if she'll go to a psychiatrist. She's bringing down herself and the family. To tear down the bread winner is insanity. It hurts her own kids. What if you left, what would she do? She'd collapse.
She's got a condition. It may be anxiety. Look that one up to. You need to get her to a psy. How about letting us know how this turns out?
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