Unhappy but still in love
I got married right out of high school to my first love. We enjoyed a long honeymoon phase of marriage lasting close to 10 years before we had our first child. During this time, my husband was unfaithful to me twice. Life wasn't perfect, but I was happy for the most part. We had date night every Friday and spent hours talking.
Things have changed dramatically between us. Recently, we've become more like roommates rather than husband and wife. Intimacy is virtually nonexistent- we barely hug, kiss, or even touch each other. Most nights he resorts to sleeping on the sofa rather than in the bed with me. Also, in the past few years, since our children have been born, he has taken me out two times. Date night is an ancient memory locked away in the recesses of my mind along with our once long meaningful conversations.
I have communicated my feelings about this change in our relationship to my husband many times over the last few years. He promises to change, and insists that he loves me. But...nothing changes. I still feel alone and spend many nights crying myself to sleep. I still love him very much- I am torn about ending the relationship.
I feel rejected and alone and I just don't know what to do.
He cheated on you, that reason enough to leave me. Get courage and do it. You will find someone better that will make you happy and respect you. Don't settle for less.
I am in a similar situation. I have been married for only 4 years though and the problems started right after we had a kid. He had no interest in me and was only interested in our daughter. He lost all feelings for me and at this point we ignore each other all day and barely talk. there is no contact of any kind. I feel like I am better friends with co-workers i only talk to a few times a week but at least they talk to me. My husband refuses to talk with me even when i beg him to he wont. So i cry on most days and barely hold it together. its one of the worst feelings in the world to feel rejected by your husband and no longer loved.