Sexuality issue, so confused??
I am a twenty year old guy, and guess I would consider myself bisexual? I'm not sure. When I first started puberty (and well into it), I only found women sexually attractive and would be disgusted by the thought of male on male sex.
Now, it seems like I can't be turned on by girls at all. I've gone soft a couple of times with them recently - I just lose interest I guess. The thought of sleeping with a guy however seems to be the only thing that turns me on. It might be because I am just bored with going through the same motions with girls for the past several years. Doing something daring and different, sleeping with a guy, like I said seems to be the only thing to turn me on. However, I see girls significantly more attractive in terms of a romantic - personal relationship.
Is this normal? I'm afraid that I'm gay and will be socially frowned upon by friends and family. I want to have a girlfriend but just can't get sexually aroused around them anymore :/ Has anyone ever gone through the same thing? Any tips?
Have you ever been with a man ? All o can say is try it see how you feel after? But i don't think that you can have a good relationship with anyone being bisexual ! If u want as that seems you want the best of both worlds!! You'd be single unless you keep any relationships separate at the time !!!
I would like to contradict BRI's advice that you can't have good relationships being bisexual. Being bisexual is one of the hardest sexual orientations to acclimate to, because there's an incredible amount of pressure to "pick a team", so to speak. Bisexuality is a legitimate sexuality, and it simply means that you can fall in love with both men and women. I say "fall in love" in particular, because often times people confuse being bisexual with having a weird kink, or seeking an alternative to monogamous relationships. If you really think you're bisexual, I'd recommend doing some research on it (and I recommend BRI do some research on it too, to avoid giving out bad advice in the future).
I don't think you're gay. It doesn't sound like you are. It honestly sounds like you're going through a phase where sexual deviance turns you on - the sexual deviance in this case being male on male sex. I say this because generally (GENERALLY) people know their orientation from puberty, whether or not they acknowledge it to themselves. It would've seemed incredibly natural to you to think of men sexually, even if you followed every thought with "I'm straight and women turn me on." However, if this does describe you, you just hadn't realized it, there is a definite chance you may be bisexual or gay.
If it's a phase, ride it through. It'll end. You'll be fine. Life goes on.
If this is not a phase, if it refuses to end or the pieces start coming together the more you think of them, then, I guess, be worried. If right now you're afraid of being socially rejected, then you should be. Especially if you live anywhere that doesn't have a Center in every city - and you're kinda screwed if you live somewhere where no one has the slightest what the Center is. Coming out as gay is tough, and coming out as bisexual is even tougher. It's going to strain relationships and make everyone, at the least, uncomfortable and confused. But don't keep it a secret - if anything, keeping your sexual orientation a secret and keeping a facade of heterosexuality is more emotionally wearing than suffering through the accusing silences of nervous friends and family.
What it all comes down to, though, is who do you fall in love with. And the answer I'm looking for is not "women" or "men". I mean, who is the one person who makes your life complete, who could smash your heart a thousand times, but it will still race every time they text you. If there's no one in your life right now, then don't think about sexuality, just think about how to get yourself off I guess. 'Cause really, sexuality doesn't matter until you fall in love.
Good luck! Hope you figure it out! Either that, or figure out that it doesn't matter.