Confused about a girl
Hi, I'm Jones. My elder brother and a lady dated for about 5 years before he passed away in August 2013. This lady has been sending me messages on whatsapp saying "I miss you" on several occasions. she also sends me messages about love. we are from the same town but we both live in different towns as of now. I'm much worried because I don't know her intentions. At times I feel like telling her my feelings but her relationship with my late brother draws me back. what should I do now? I'm worried.
What exactly are your feelings towards her? Saying things like " I miss you", sending messages about love all speak loud and clear what her feelings are. What was your relationship with her before your brother passed away?
Be aware that she may see you as an substitute for your brother.
I got to know her through my bro when they dated. my parents never knew and up to now do not know about my bro's relationship with her. I feel like dating her but I'm afraid of what society may say about such a relationship (dating a lady who was once in a relationship with your late sibling ). From my part of the world, issues like this are frowned upon.
For whatever reasons your brother choose not to bring her home to meet mom/dad. She on the other hand has no problem crossing a cultural/societal taboo. She and your brother were together for 5 years, that's a long time to be kept in the dark with your family. Is she bring home material?
This is where you decide what are your core values. Sometimes just because you can doesn't mean you should. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so out of respect for your brother move on.
@SKINNYGIRL. Thanks a lot for your contributions. I really appreciate it. I have to forget about her and move on