I been in a relationship for 1 year and 2 months. I have to say that this guy has made the happiest girl in the world. I am very attached to him, but that creates problems. He always wanted to join the military, and when we were 5 months he ask me if I wanted him to sign up for it. The thing was that we were 5 months we did not know if our relationship would last long enough, so I told him he had to do what he wanted. He signed up, and he left 3 weeks ago. I can not have any communication only letters. Its really tough when he left he was excited, and i feel so guilty for not being happy for him. To make it worst i have to hide when i feel sad or i want to cry. as a girlfriend you can not feel alone, and you have to be a supportive girlfriend because he is protecting the country. I wish i could control my emotions specially when i am in public, but I cant.
This is such a lonely choice of life, that I dont know if i can make it. However, if people would hear this part, about how lonely i feel they just tell me he is not dead and to be by his side. I love him a lot and i dont want anyone else, but i do feel alone and depressed.
It's so hard to cover up your sadness and especially when the people around you think you should be the supportive girlfriend but you can only take so much and this is a big change. There is no shame in feeling the way you do and you are doing your best. The only thing I can say is search for things to occupy you mind or make you happy. And maybe ways to cope like researching how other army wives or girlfriends cope and see if that helps. if you love h and think he is worth the try than just do your best but don't beat yourself up about feeling sad. It's okay and normal. And if so happens that you just can't take the distance, then do what's best for your emotional well being. No one should dictate how you feel but yourself.
I am married to a military man. Also grew up in a military home and also my husbands parents are in the military. I know how hard it is being left alone. My husband has been deployed 3 times. And he just I listed again for another 4 years. There isn't a way to deal with the pain of being away or being lonely. However there are people out there going through the same thing. If you can connect with those people you will realize that you're not alone. We as the wife/girlfriend have to keep everything together while our men are over there kicking ass. They can't be worried about things at home. They have to stay focused on getting back home. Thinking of coming home keeps them alive and motivated.