Am I seeing this wrong
Hi I have been seeing this girl for 2 years on and off by her choice. She has this male friend and they are realy close and im ok with it but where it gets funny is! ! She wont commit to a full on relationship with me and she rarely tells me how she feels, They have been friends for 7 years now and she has had a full time boyfriend before me and about a year after she met her close friend. When she had her other boyfriend the close friend backed of But you would expect that, her last boyfriend didn't treat her well made her jealous and never spoke to her much.
that is not the issue besides all the things she said he did I feel she does to me, everyone knows about social media and her and this best friend have a lot of pics hugging and stuff on her profile all good she had a life before me .But we had a pic taken one day and she posted it I was quite happy but with in 5 minutes she posted a pic of this best friend ,felt like I had to share the moment and be second even though he wasnt there,he is also on her profile pic huging her. Our friends dont understand why its not me but when ever its brought up she says its her profile and her best friend of 7 years is staying! ok
Now he has done nothing special for her and untill of late I just thought they were only platonic friends like she said. He is not the sort of person that she would be interested in. During a fight one day she tells me how they met they fooled around the first couple of days when they first met never sleept together and decided to just be friends.
I went away for 8 weeks and thought nothing of it came home caught up with her. Her friend goes away and within the first week she is posting how she missed him again second. Now when I mentioned this to her she says that I should be comfortable with it as she tells me how she feels 2 times in 2 years and that im the man in her life but I have never got one ounce of credit or anything from her, when I say anything she says im telling her who to be friends with not the case but the person you are with should feel the most important. Not that long ago she tells me they planned a camping trip up north being stupid I said we will have a great time, She said that it was planned befor her and me and was them two going! again I thought that when u get involved with someone u include them Instead I got "is it a problem" I said that I dont think a single male with a history with you should be going camping for 7 days no phones and stuff that is something you do with your boyfriend and ya best friend comes along not leave the boyfriend home. She said that im the man in her life and that she shouldn't have to change who she is and it shouldnt be a problem.
I have asked all my mates girls and mates and they said you dont do that I agree again im second when I say something she says im making her choose all I asked is to be a thought and not put me behind this bloke that is realy nothing special. Even if I approach it lightly she gets upset and goes off saying I dont trust her and stuff! It feels like she is not committing to a relationship with me for some reason when we talk she says it was only 2 months ago I told you that you were important and why should I have to tell you agin! not committed.
im a strong person and I dont fall in and out of love offen I have very old fashion values so this plays with me She says she does as well but what she is doing breeds Jelous and suppious doubts.
Any comments be appreciated I dont believe im looking at this wrong I should be the person in her life or not and they should back this off. she wouldnt like it and justbfeels like it is starting to be dilibate noone should feel second and have to back down because the other person is a friend for longer the person who is with her should feel first not just told!
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Not sure what i mean she is not intrested in him and says if he was to over step the friendship she would stop being friends with him he is a player and hurts women she is not interested at 40 years old in a bloke of 32 like that .