Ive just got home from an activity weekend where we participate in a game - some of the people were actors - it's run by a company.
Anyway, I met this great guy who showed a lot of interest and made a move on me. I welcomed it with open arms and we spent the evening dancing and drinking (he was an actor). He invited me back to his hotel room where we slept together - although he was very worried he would lose his job if anyone found out which I understood. Before this happened I asked him if he was married, his real name and we chatted and drank more wine first.
He was just my type. Before I left the hotel room he took my number and said he would message me as usually the next morning after close of play they didn't stay too long and headed home (which has always been the case as I've been on these weekends before). So he took my number and I left. Next morning we bumped into each other, said hello, chatted etc but didn't get much time to talk and I didn't see him before I left!
I did a bit of digging on Facebook when I returned home to actually find out he is in fact MARRIED. This has shattered my confidence, made me feel like a complete fool. Obviously I haven't got his number which maybe I should have taken but I can now see his Facebook.
What should I do? I feel totally deflated.
"I met this great guy who showed a lot of interest and made a move on me. I welcomed it with open arms . . ."
So, you were a willing participant in all this.
I wouldn't be so quick to assume things. Maybe he's married,but maybe he is separated. Maybe his marriage has pretty much fallen apart and he's looking for someone else. Marriage means different things to different people. To me, marriage doesn't mean much. A good relationship should be able to stand on its own, without labels.
So you found his Facebook. Get in touch with him. Keep going to the activity weekends in hopes of seeing him again. Get the full story, before you assume he is just a cheat.
I was a willing party however does that make it ok?
ALTREAL - doesn't me having found his Facebook make me seem a bit creepy? I will continue to go but he had my number and hasn't messaged me so shouldn't I just assume that it was just a one weekend fling and move on until I may see him again.