Jealous coworker involved in love triangle at work help me
Long story everyone.
I've been seeing this guy at work and we were hitting it off, but he's also really good friends with this girl who is married but in love with the guy I like. (While married to another guy) She's been giving me dirty looks and everything, but I've never approached her a day in my life and one night when I was still working, she exists out with the guy I like to the parking lot, and I had the impression they went home together. Instead, 5 minutes later, she returns to the work property to confront me about the guy I like, and how she's been flirting with him for years, and how I have no right to change their relationship at all and I should back off. She continues to harass me while i'm working so, she finally walks away. I tried to call the guy I like, but she beat me to it, and she ends up claiming that apparently I chased after her into the parking lot, and told her that her marriage is dead etc.
So the guy was pretty pissed off at me, and I told him my side of the story, and then he cussed both of us out. and said he was done with both me and the jealous girl too. So then I called him back crying and saying I didn't want him to go, I wanted him to stay, and he said he would and that he's sorry so wanted to make things right, but he wanted time for himself to cool down.
HR was soon involved the next day where management urged me to fill out a report for her bothering me, and i did, and HR spoke with both of us, but now i'm hearing rumors everywhere about it, only with her side of the story though. I'm embarrassed because now that she's been reported to HR, she's trying to get everyone against me, and I think he's against me too. Because there are specific details that only him and I know and they were brought out too for people to gossip about too.
I'm scared that he's taking her side and not mine. I feel like he hates me, and we work together. I feel like this is all my fault.
WHAT DO I DO?????
Lots of choices:
1. Stand still and be calm. Time is the great revealer. Everyone knows that you (a single girl) and this guy( single) have an issue and she (married) is involved. How do you think that will all pan out. I think HR will not be pleased that she is in the middle of a relationship between two single people.
3. Now you know where his allegiance is. Stay way from him.
2. Quit ASAP and leave that squirrel's next with the promise to yourself never to get involved with anyone at the workplace.
It doesn't matter who this guy is friends with etc, its his reaction to the commotion your married colleague caused, which tells you where you stand with him. Ask yourself why you fear that he is taking her side and then take two steps away from it all and look at it from another angle. You'll find that he's just not worth the hassle because if he was, he wouldn't react to a married colleague's behavior where he is contributing to her failing marriage, and at the same time, is setting you up for a fall because his 'loyalty' lies elsewhere.
Throw in the fact that it's all happened at the workplace and you have a no win situation for all involved except the company you guys work for because their HR are involved and they can make the problem go away in a blink.
first of all this is not your fault this is her fault if she had not come up to you about non work things aduring work hours this would not have happended i know it may not mean much but i am on your side!
second this has backed you into acorner you either have to quit or fight back! tell your side of the story to the biggest gosper in the work place but ack like your her friend so if you need to butter her or him up spend alittle bit of quality time together and act like its normal then do it, and you can drag her name threw the mud just like she did to you, he or she can be a future allie aand you need all you can get right now! she is tarnishishing your good name are you just going to sit back at let this married woman ruin your reputation i think not! OR you could do nothing as if it didnt even bother you,and admit defeat!