What my daughter and her husband do not know is that my wife had an affair with a married man & co-worker about 11 years ago (We've been married for 28 years). We stayed together and time has healed the hurt I felt at the time. Unfortunately, I recently found out that my wife was conducting an intense online correspondence with an old boyfriend without my knowledge. We are trying to deal with issues raised by this, and she has stopped all contact now. However, I am concerned about my wife's ability to maintain boundaries in our marriage at present, and I feel uneasy that our daughter's partner is now confiding in her. Am I being unreasonable, and in any case, should either of us get involved in advising either of them. I would prefer they obtained counselling.
Not sure how these two things are connected. Can you elaborate? What are you worried about?
By all means be there to support your daughter when she needs or wants it, but get your wife out of it. It's not her life; it's theirs. Therefore THEY alone are responsible for getting the appropriate help.
SusieDQQ: he's worried that his wife might get too close to the daughters partner. wink wink. Am i correct TOIA?
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