Husband can't climax
My husband and I have been married for nearly two years and together for over 4.
To sum things up as best as I can, he has always had problems climaxing during sex, even before we were together.
I'm bi and we have had other women joins us before but recently was the first time he had sex with someone else and he climaxed with her.
As you can all imagine, makes you feel pretty bad. 4 years and not even close, once with someone else and...voila.
I've tried everything I can to get to that point but nothing has worked. I know everyone is different but has another been through this before? Any advice would help.
Well, first I want to start by saying your husband is one lucky guy.
He had some problems climaxing even before you met, but did he manage to climax more often early on in your relationship? Or is it about the same?
There's really so many different variables that could be affecting why he can or can't climax. It could be that he has grown used to you, it could be that maybe you aren't tight enough for him, or don't get into intercourse enough. Or maybe it is something totally different. Maybe just the excitement of being with different women - new women - is what really does it for him.
One thing I might suggest is letting him watch you with her, and see how he enjoys that show. Maybe it would be a nice confidence-booster to learn that your husband does get off watching you embracing your sexuality, and that your presence there turns him on. Even just putting on a solo show and teasing him might do the trick!
If you and your husband continue to invite this same woman to your bedroom, maybe take note of how he responds to her over time, whether or not there is a change in his ability to climax.
But one thing I really want to drive home is, if this man loves you and wants to make love to you - even if he doesn't always climax - then I wouldn't let it bother you too much one way or the other whether she gets him off in 10 seconds flat each and every time. If a woman loves a man, she will make love to him even if she doesn't always manage to climax. It goes both ways. And if he sees to it that you manage to climax? Then great!
Speaking from the perspective of a straight man who wishes he could routinely act out FFM threesomes with the right woman, you offer your husband the fun and varied sexual lifestyle that most of us can only dream of. You're the unicorn goldmine, and a smart man will realize how rare that treat can be!
Thank you for the response.
We actually spoke about this laat night and he told me that he's only ever been able to climax during sex 3 times (one of those 3 being during our recent threesome)
So it's not just an issue with me.
We'll just have to see. I was just interested in finding out if other people with the same/similar issue managed to find a way to resolve it.
He should consult with a physician that specializes in this area who can determine if his condition is a physical or a physiological one. His diagnosis will dictate the type of treatment necessary. If he's not oppose you should attend the appointment with him.