I had a crush/infatuation when I was 18 and could not tell her and left to another place for studies and came back to stay at home for further study preparation. when I was at another place i almost forgotten her and did well in my studies. but when I came to stay at home after 2 months or so I started recollecting about her and it really hurt me why its so after so many years i am so worried about her. some how i managed to pursue my studies further and completed my studies and did my job in a different place from my native and I managed well with my life. due to my career prospects i shifted to my native place and stared to find a new job opportunities and in the due course I had the same problem of recollecting about her its really hurting me why its happening to me. i know that its a kind of nostalgia. but I really do not know how to how to cope with this problem. i cant keep on moving to different places as i cant forget her. i consulted a practitioner but the advice was on sleeping medication and meditation. which is not a permanent solution. can anybody advice me how to getaway with this problem.
Dont waste your time looking at what you've lost. Move on because life is not meant to be traveled backwards. Dont try to understand everything, because sometimes it's not meant to be understood, but to be accepted. However, if your curiosity is too great you should look her up and get back in touch. You can stand there and think "if only" or you can go and change it. But keep in mind just because you miss someone doesn't mean you need them back in your life. Missing is just a part of moving on.
Hi! Infatuation is part of growing up. It is something we can't avoid. They say having crushes last only for 3 months, if it is more than that then maybe it isn't anymore a mere attraction. Basing from your explanation, you left without telling her about your feelings. And now you can't get her off your mind right after seeing her again. Here's a thing, "when you get old, the only thing that makes you regret are the things you didn't do and not the things you did."
So here's what you have to do. You tell her about what you feel. Stop from there if that already satisfy you, if not then court her if you have to (when you are ready). Don't give up not unless she isn't ready. If she rejects you for she isn't ready to be in a relationship yet then tell her you'll wait and that hopefully your friendship doesn't change. If she rejects you telling you she doesn't like you at all despite doing much effort then I guess you have to move on. Moving on ain't easy but time surely will make you feel better. Time heals everything. Just give time some time. Goodluck!