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Long Distance Relationship advice my boyfriend and I have been together a little over 6 months now. he works away for work and is gone 2 weeks at a time. he had a month of recently and just went back to work. in the beginning I didn't mind as much but now that im more attached I absolutely hate him being gone and 6 hours away at that. I have some issues because of past not to do with him that make it worse. I want to get a job here. But from the beginning he told me he loves his job, and I told him id never make him quit. I don't want to make him quit but I cant do this with him being that far away the anxiety is insane. I don't want to tell him how bad I hate this because I don't want him to quit for me and end up resenting me for it. PLEASE WHAT DO I DO I cant take it anymore im constantly overthinking and worried and missing him.

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What's the normal pattern - 2 weeks on and how many days/weeks off? And is this situation due to his having moved in with you or to within your geographical location (i.e. do you live together)?

"But from the beginning he told me he loves his job, and I told him id never make him quit."

Ah. So you want his agreement to change that pre-condition as stipulated on his original 'advertisement'?

So your last or however long past boyfriend two-timed you behind your back, yes?

Whilst awaiting your response to those questions, would it be fair to say, then, that because his 'other love' is his job, you want to gauge exactly in metres, cms and mms, how much or how much more he loves YOU as a really meaty and permanent form of reassurance to put paid to these baggage-related wobbles?

Who says telling him how much you hate this enforced on-off/fed-starved situation automatically means you must be asking him to quit/change this job of his?

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Hello,

So it sounds like this has been a very stressful and overwhelming problem you are facing. I think the best thing you can do for yourself is to ask yourself can you be happy doing this type of relationship. Its hard to go back on what we promise to people but you also need to be a little realistic and I think you have done that. So my advise is I would really talk to him and express the concern on how you feel about him and his work and that you feel like its hard for you to grow with him with this type of relationship. I would take it one step at a time :) If you need any more updates or questions or advise please feel free to ask me :)

Good Luck :)

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