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Relationship advice Hello everyone, I recently relocated from Canada to the US to be with my husband of 3 years. My issue is my husband thinks it is Ok to have females call him at our house anytime they want to. Some of these women are friends he met at work and others he met online. I feel really disrespected by him and these women.A few weeks ago one of these women called on a Sunday when we were enjoying the day together and he felt it was OK to chat with the woman for almost 3 hours behind closed doors; believe me I was livid. I notice the tone he uses with these women is so much different than the tone he uses with me, he is somewhat dismissive with me. I don't have any friends here so I have no one I can call on to talk to. I am ready to end this marriage because I have had enough. I would love to hear thoughts from you all.

Ending my marriage

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I am confused. Do you mean you have not lived with this man (your husband) for three years and you have JUST now joined him? Is this an arranged marriage? Why haven't you ever been together/

It is clear that he does not feel married to you.

This is sad, I am sorry for you.

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You say:

"I recently relocated from Canada to the US to be with my husband of 3 years"

1.If you were separated from your husband for a long time, he feels single. He's probably been cheating on you.
That's what happens in marriages which involve long times apart. Not all, but a lot.

You say,

"My issue is my husband thinks it is Ok to have females call him at our house anytime they want to."

They've been calling him for three years, setting up dates with him, and having sex.

I found out late in the game that my wife was having guys call her after she got off work at 3 p.m., and before I got in at 5 to 6 p.m.

While I was married to her (for 36 years), I didn't want to believe it for one, we had a young child at the start of that, and, two, we were buying a house together, and three, I had emotional problems and not a lot of money, so I felt like I had to stick around.

Plus, I blocked a lot of it out, for I needed her paycheck, our child and the house we were buying. If I couldn't change my location, I could change my mind, and pretend she wasn't cheating.

She died of a long illness, she smoked, and within a minute of coming home from her funeral, my mind let down its clamp on me and said, "You can think about anything you want, you can come to any conclusion, and there won't be any consequences."

I then thought, "She was cheating on me, and this is how I know that," and over 2 or 3 years, I realized she had cheated on me over 2,000 times in 16 years. Since you don't have any children, you've really got no obstacles.

And if you really want to stay married to him, you'll block it out, like I did. And you'll be putting up with a lot of junk, and writing to help lines.

Hey, and if you don't have any children, you need to get down on your knees, not in submission, but in thanks. You just got a lucky break and you don't know it.

You're not the unluckiest person in the world, you're the luckiest.

Something tells me you won't be going to the heart doctor for chest pain many times as I did for 29 years. I'm now basically free of chest pain. Wondered what caused my chest pain?

Ending my marriage

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He is totally disrespecting you and you need to put your foot down and give him an ultimatum" You or Divorce" Be firm-

For him to talk to some woman behind closed doors for 3 hours speaks for itself. Stop being disrespected.

You should plan your exit without him knowing.

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