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Need help with career and relationship balance

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Ok bit of background of my issue: I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and living together for 1.5 years. We are very much in love and planning to spend the rest of our lives together. Due to his work commitments he is being moved to Oxford in August which is about 2 hours from where we currently live. I am working as a nurse and we rent our house together. I am really struggling in deciding whether I should move with him to Oxford or not. The job I am doing now I don't really enjoy but I will be getting a promotion in October if I stay. I think I could get a job in Oxford in a speciality I really want to pursue but would have to apply soon if I was going to move. I really love where we live now, all my friends are here and I have been here for 6 years now. Neither of our families live in this area. If I move to Oxford it will be a completely new city where I know no one and am completely changing job unsure whether I will like it or not. If I stay I will have to go back to house sharing as I cannot afford rent on my own and only see my man at weekends but I will be surrounded by all my friends. Please help! Any suggestions or advice would be very much appreciated! Vicki

Need help with career and relationship balance

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If the man you plan to spend the rest of your life with is your main focus, then you will move to be with him 7/24/365. If your friends are your priority and you are settled where you are now, then you will see your BF only on weekends. Basically there's no question or doubts of moving away together when a couple completely support each other in everything they do. They plan their future together and they work and negotiate to be together whatever the circumstances. You need to realize that your post has excuses for not moving with him and while it's a challenge to decide what to do, if you really had the need to be your BF, you wouldn't hesitate to relocate with him. You wouldn't care about making new friends and changing careers, you would just accept it as what you have to do to be with your man.

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