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In love with my same-sex best friend

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Over the past year, I have been questioning my sexual orientation because I grew to love my best friend. I finally talked to her about it and she told me she does not know how to feel about it. It has been a week and I don't know really know how she feels about things and if I should just assume her silence means she is not interested but does not know how to tell me. What would you do? How do you come back from this? And if we continue to be best friends, what would need to happen to make sure the relationship thrives?

In love with my same-sex best friend

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I think you should allow your friend more time. I know that is so hard - but this needs a lot of time to settle; If you were to become friends again and your friend was not interested that way - your friend may feel afraid to lead you on. Because intimacy between lovers and friends is different. It would be awkward. You will not have the same friendship - no matter what - it will be different. My advice is give it time and in the mean time; try a new hobby, get out there and meet new people. Not romantically - just to give your head space. Everything passes. You were honest. That's always good. Try not to worry and breathe. You are doing your best.

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