Lost and confused
I met this guy few month ago and we have been together like any other normal couple until one and half months ago he went back to his country. He has always told me he was not ready for any relationship but i don't understand why he treated me like his girlfriend. We talk about almost everything and he has also promise to try to work on this relationship but things have changed just kes than two weeks he was back home. He changed his mind and all of the sudden told me he just want to be friend with me. He said some awkful words that make me feel so sad. We stopped contacting each other for a short while and suddenly he contacted me again showing me his Love and care. He even asked for my forgiveness of his behaviour. We have make plan to meet each other again and he promise to stay clean for me i.e not having other relationship with other girls. But suddently on yesterday he told me he is thinking to meet other girl and want to have sexual relationship with them,. I feel so hurt and disguisty to hear the news. I know no matter how much i Love him but i can never have the thought to accept him sleeping with other woman even he always saiid he want to see me again. I have stop my connection with him today and. I am not sure if i have make the right move. Can someone please help to advice?
He "likes" you - but is not willing to be exclusive to you.
You are going to have to figure out if that's good enough for you.
Tell him that BOTH of you can date others, and have sex with other people. See what he says about that!
Hi Susiedqq, that is exactly what he wants but I just can't accept the idea of dating or have sex with other people if we really like or love each other. He knew that from day one we started our "relationship". I can't stop having this thought that I am just some "spare partner" for him whenever he needs me and it hurts so much to think about that. I know he likes me a lot but still not good enough to commit. His unstable thought are driving nuts and someday he would showed me how loving and thoughtful which make me think we can make this work out but sometime his reaction tell me he does not care about how I feel by saying things that hurt me so much. I am in a very confusing stage right now and basically at the edge of giving up. I'm not too sure if I should confront him about all my thoughts. Please help!